lol. no idea why i've been having headache and backaches for the whole of yesterday night to this morning :( took panadol just now cos it felt like i was going to have a fever. hahaa.
i dreamt that i was stranded in Thailand yesterday. hahaha. so funny.
i still remember vividly that the plot was as follows: we were staying at a friend's house (i dun remember who the we were...) and on saturday morning, when i was about to depart for my flight back to Singapore, i checked my ticket and realized that the flight was supposed to be the night (Friday night) before! wahaha. super funny. and thus i realized that i've already missed my flight. and immediately i got reminded of Florence and Serene! LOL
i remembered thinking in the dream that I don't have enough money to fly back, and since I'm already stranded in Thailand, i might as well spend more time here. lol. anyway, my friend's parents helped me to buy tickets to go back home, but in return, i had to help them with housework that kinda thing. haha.
so funny.
Monday, October 10, 2011
Sunday, October 09, 2011
Friday, October 07, 2011
“Our therapy sessions were very helpful to me, although I did hit on her on a couple of occasions. She was the consummate professional. We concluded our sessions and are now involved in a loving sexual relationship. It was a relationship which developed after our meetings. We have been together now for 10 years. I love her so much. She is everything to me as I am to her!"
--> -_- this is also SUPER UNPROFESSIONAL. under the guidelines, you're not supposed to be romantically involved in a relationship (at least for 6 yrs) with someone whom you've counselled before. in the first place, isn't it weird? like one-sided.
--> -_- this is also SUPER UNPROFESSIONAL. under the guidelines, you're not supposed to be romantically involved in a relationship (at least for 6 yrs) with someone whom you've counselled before. in the first place, isn't it weird? like one-sided.
Am reading up on transference (again).
saw this online:
"I am 46 and have been to several male therapists with whom I've had no transference. I feel as though he took advantage of my vulnerability and the fact that my relationship with my husband was unhealthy and screwed up at that time. He also would take me out to lunch regularly, tell me how he'd be "willing to take me out for a glass of wine", etc. There was never any touching between us."
--> O_O
what kind of therapist actually does that? that's BEYOND professional standards of counselling and therapy! no wonder the lady was having transference issues -_-
"The therapist as parent in this type of transference may have to endure some pretty strong anger from the patient. This is in part helpful because it allows the child to express feelings that were too dangerous to express in an abusive or neglectful setting. Once these feelings of anger and grief are expressed, the patient often feels a relief, as if he or she had actually confronted his own parents."
--> i once used this in a counselling session with a girl. sensed that she was transferring her experiences towards other friends towards me, along with constant rejection, a sort of a push and pull relationship of sorts.
not easy to have gone through that period of time (like have to consistently and constantly establish a routine and stable and accepting meetup for around 3 months). thank God that period of time is over and due to that, i could help her to make sense of the bullying in her life in the past.
typing this down sort of an account of what happened. haha
saw this online:
"I am 46 and have been to several male therapists with whom I've had no transference. I feel as though he took advantage of my vulnerability and the fact that my relationship with my husband was unhealthy and screwed up at that time. He also would take me out to lunch regularly, tell me how he'd be "willing to take me out for a glass of wine", etc. There was never any touching between us."
--> O_O
what kind of therapist actually does that? that's BEYOND professional standards of counselling and therapy! no wonder the lady was having transference issues -_-
"The therapist as parent in this type of transference may have to endure some pretty strong anger from the patient. This is in part helpful because it allows the child to express feelings that were too dangerous to express in an abusive or neglectful setting. Once these feelings of anger and grief are expressed, the patient often feels a relief, as if he or she had actually confronted his own parents."
--> i once used this in a counselling session with a girl. sensed that she was transferring her experiences towards other friends towards me, along with constant rejection, a sort of a push and pull relationship of sorts.
not easy to have gone through that period of time (like have to consistently and constantly establish a routine and stable and accepting meetup for around 3 months). thank God that period of time is over and due to that, i could help her to make sense of the bullying in her life in the past.
typing this down sort of an account of what happened. haha
Wednesday, October 05, 2011
Monday, October 03, 2011
"Let’s say I have just one hour to focus on house cleaning. Normally I would start in one room and concentrate all my efforts on the room, and most likely one thing on that room – perhaps the closet. That leaves the other rooms untouched and the remainder of the room looking just as messy as before."
--> WAHAHAHA. that's what happens to me! WAHAHAHA
--> WAHAHAHA. that's what happens to me! WAHAHAHA
Hyperfocus is the term used to describe when an ADHD individual is immersed in an activity he or she finds interesting. Many parents are familiar with hyperfocus as it applies to TV and video games. You may have heard parents ask, “Why can my child sit for 12 hours in front of a computer game, yet he is unable to do homework for 5 minutes?” Hyperfocus answers this question. Since ADHD children cannot regulate their attention, they will be engrossed by something they find interesting while neglecting important areas of their lives.
When ADHD children or adults are in the zone of hyperfocus, they may lose track of time and reality. Hours seem like minutes and the outside world is distant to them. On the good side, a list of ADHD positive characteristics includes hyperfocus because it can be an asset for innovative types like scientists, artists, writers, and inventors. On the bad side, hyperfocus may lead to tight deadlines, the tendency to be tardy, and misunderstandings in relationships.
--> this probably explains why i could play Aardwolf for 6 hrs straight :X
When ADHD children or adults are in the zone of hyperfocus, they may lose track of time and reality. Hours seem like minutes and the outside world is distant to them. On the good side, a list of ADHD positive characteristics includes hyperfocus because it can be an asset for innovative types like scientists, artists, writers, and inventors. On the bad side, hyperfocus may lead to tight deadlines, the tendency to be tardy, and misunderstandings in relationships.
--> this probably explains why i could play Aardwolf for 6 hrs straight :X
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
From an article about ADHD in women :
Does ADHD in women show up the same way it does in men?
Women and girls with ADHD are more likely to internalize symptoms and become anxious. Symptoms most often reported by women are dysphoria [unhappiness], inattention, organization problems and impulsive behaviors.
For men, it tends to be external motor activity; for girls it’s more fidgeting and twirling their hair. With females [you see more] hyper-talkativeness. They’re out of control emotionally.
From another site:
It is a misunderstanding that those with ADHD cannot concentrate and focus, because they often can. The difference is that they can intensely focus on what is of interest to them at the time (like swimming or video games) but have difficulty with subjects or tasks not of their choosing (like homework assignments on topics they don't like or group activities). They may feel overwhelmed when trying to organize and complete other assignments or responsibilities, leading to increased stress. In essence, they space out because of this overload.
This is in contrast to those without ADHD, as they are still able to focus and follow through with an uninteresting task without being distracted. They can organize, remember conversations, plan, socialize and balance, even when stressed by multiple assignments or life needs.
Does ADHD in women show up the same way it does in men?
Women and girls with ADHD are more likely to internalize symptoms and become anxious. Symptoms most often reported by women are dysphoria [unhappiness], inattention, organization problems and impulsive behaviors.
For men, it tends to be external motor activity; for girls it’s more fidgeting and twirling their hair. With females [you see more] hyper-talkativeness. They’re out of control emotionally.
From another site:
It is a misunderstanding that those with ADHD cannot concentrate and focus, because they often can. The difference is that they can intensely focus on what is of interest to them at the time (like swimming or video games) but have difficulty with subjects or tasks not of their choosing (like homework assignments on topics they don't like or group activities). They may feel overwhelmed when trying to organize and complete other assignments or responsibilities, leading to increased stress. In essence, they space out because of this overload.
This is in contrast to those without ADHD, as they are still able to focus and follow through with an uninteresting task without being distracted. They can organize, remember conversations, plan, socialize and balance, even when stressed by multiple assignments or life needs.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
heh. thought i'd post this up here :)
cos found i think through this i learned 2 things about myself:
1) i greatly hesitate about doing things/writing letters/buying things for others. hahaa. cos i think i'm rather scared that they'd take it wrongly, or that it's too intense, or that they'd think i'm weird. hahaa. so i keep controlling myself. and end up giving things late, or i'd take like 4 weeks to finally offer to help do something :X hahaa. this card is another example. i finished writing it and wanted to not give it cos dunno if the teacher will find it weird. in the end, i think she was quite touched. hahaa.
2) partly wrote this card cos there was a sensing in my heart that she was somewhat lonely/down due to her birthday coming, and thought that it would be nice to help our sensei to see that Singapore doesn't have to be a lonely place :) i mean, it's not easy to travel to another country to work by herself. heh. glad to have allowed God to work through me.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
had music practice earlier on. haha. praise and worship practice for robert's and melissa's wedding.
my first time helping out in a wedding! am so excited :)
was blessed by the fellowship tonight. haha. people whom i'm comfortable with and can just be myself. people whom i enjoy the presence of :) (hahaha. maybe cos more than half the room were sanguines! hahaha. and the other half was like phlegs. hahaa. so you have nicely sang people and nicely phleg people and you have my favourite combi of people:D hee. well. not really, but it just fitted nicely today. haha)
made a new friend too -->jocelyn from adults grp :) our quiet pianist. haha.
had a good time with melissa as well. we were preparing fruits together for the rest of the people :) had a good time talking to her and getting to know her more! she really has the gift of serving :) she keeps seeking to serve other people :)
am glad to be able to serve alongside 2 of my ex CLs! privileged :) haha. and to be able to have good fellowship in huichun and weizhu's house.
had a good chat with jiadai too! :) to be able to listen to her share. was greatly encouraged to have someone in the same counselling sector, and to be able to hear her share about her life :) thank God for her openness :)
my first time helping out in a wedding! am so excited :)
was blessed by the fellowship tonight. haha. people whom i'm comfortable with and can just be myself. people whom i enjoy the presence of :) (hahaha. maybe cos more than half the room were sanguines! hahaha. and the other half was like phlegs. hahaa. so you have nicely sang people and nicely phleg people and you have my favourite combi of people:D hee. well. not really, but it just fitted nicely today. haha)
made a new friend too -->jocelyn from adults grp :) our quiet pianist. haha.
had a good time with melissa as well. we were preparing fruits together for the rest of the people :) had a good time talking to her and getting to know her more! she really has the gift of serving :) she keeps seeking to serve other people :)
am glad to be able to serve alongside 2 of my ex CLs! privileged :) haha. and to be able to have good fellowship in huichun and weizhu's house.
had a good chat with jiadai too! :) to be able to listen to her share. was greatly encouraged to have someone in the same counselling sector, and to be able to hear her share about her life :) thank God for her openness :)
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
headache.
pain around eye region.
cramps.
back ache
stuffed nose
sore throat
loss of voice
hahaa. am still thankful it's remaining as a cold though.
though the headache's really getting to me. haha. pain.
finished reading 'the upside of irrationality'! haha. do read it if u have the chance. pretty interesting detailing of social experiments and implications :D
pain around eye region.
cramps.
back ache
stuffed nose
sore throat
loss of voice
hahaa. am still thankful it's remaining as a cold though.
though the headache's really getting to me. haha. pain.
finished reading 'the upside of irrationality'! haha. do read it if u have the chance. pretty interesting detailing of social experiments and implications :D
Monday, September 19, 2011
heh.
am getting slowly tired of rejections.
of people whom i message who don't reply my messages cos they're running away from God.
of people whom i message who don't reply my messages/answer my calls cos they're running away from school.
each one a cut on my already scarred hands. each one requiring an additional amount of effort to want to still love the people. each one requiring God to continue to do the healing work.
am getting slowly tired of rejections.
of people whom i message who don't reply my messages cos they're running away from God.
of people whom i message who don't reply my messages/answer my calls cos they're running away from school.
each one a cut on my already scarred hands. each one requiring an additional amount of effort to want to still love the people. each one requiring God to continue to do the healing work.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
yesterday i went to sleep slightly before 2am. i fell into sleep and dreamt that i was in a place when terrorists (?) came in with guns. and they got all of us to squat. i didn't feel fear in the beginning. until they started to shoot at someone i cannot see (blocked by boxes (?) tables (?)) and the person started screaming. and then someone else started screaming too. and i remember that's when i started to fear and had to tell myself to remain clear and calm.
and i woke up.
it was 2.14am.
and i remember asking myself how i'd respond if i'm really in that situation. and thinking how glad i am tt i'm not. and for the first time, feeling a tad of how it's like to have the threat of a gun to my head.
and really being thankful that it was just a dream.
and i woke up.
it was 2.14am.
and i remember asking myself how i'd respond if i'm really in that situation. and thinking how glad i am tt i'm not. and for the first time, feeling a tad of how it's like to have the threat of a gun to my head.
and really being thankful that it was just a dream.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Just finished playing http://www.gamezebo.com/games/awakening-dreamless-castle/review. Quite enjoyable! :D short game. only used 2 hrs and 40 mins. and i had to use up my bigfishgame credits. hahaha.
loved the graphics and the music :D and the fact that the puzzles are not too high or too easy. quite amusing at times (amusing to me la. haha)
straight forward game play :D
i've bought the other 2 Awakening titles too. hahaa. nicely used up my game credits.
glad to have a satisfying and enjoyable game! :D
loved the graphics and the music :D and the fact that the puzzles are not too high or too easy. quite amusing at times (amusing to me la. haha)
straight forward game play :D
i've bought the other 2 Awakening titles too. hahaa. nicely used up my game credits.
glad to have a satisfying and enjoyable game! :D
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
haha. today's a pretty interesting day.
had free buffet lunch today cos the swc (staff welfare comm) went down for food tasting for this friday's staff dinner :D food at ywca coffee house is surprisingly good. hahaha. and there's nobody around! it's abt SGD$20 after GST and service charge. well worth it, i'd say. no salmon sashimi though.
had compliments from colleagues on my blue dress (the one from bangkok). hahaa. feels so weird.
my swc head sent me an sms complimenting my dress (again), and asked where he can get it so that he can buy it for his wife. so sweet! hahaa.
actually bought 3 books today. "the upside of irrationality" by Dan Ariely (which is a pretty good book!), the other is Sophie's world (i was like WOW! grab! haha). it's 3 for the price of 2, so i grabbed another thriller (which i can't remember the name of. hahaha).
i actually went into Times wanting to buy 'what the dog sees' by the malcolm person. in the end i didn't buy that book. hahaha
had free buffet lunch today cos the swc (staff welfare comm) went down for food tasting for this friday's staff dinner :D food at ywca coffee house is surprisingly good. hahaha. and there's nobody around! it's abt SGD$20 after GST and service charge. well worth it, i'd say. no salmon sashimi though.
had compliments from colleagues on my blue dress (the one from bangkok). hahaa. feels so weird.
my swc head sent me an sms complimenting my dress (again), and asked where he can get it so that he can buy it for his wife. so sweet! hahaa.
actually bought 3 books today. "the upside of irrationality" by Dan Ariely (which is a pretty good book!), the other is Sophie's world (i was like WOW! grab! haha). it's 3 for the price of 2, so i grabbed another thriller (which i can't remember the name of. hahaha).
i actually went into Times wanting to buy 'what the dog sees' by the malcolm person. in the end i didn't buy that book. hahaha
Monday, September 12, 2011
Friday, September 09, 2011
i think that people who primarily listen to english songs has a slightly different view of love than people who primarily listen to chinese songs.
somehow or another, english songs tend to treat love slightly more flippantly, as if love can be played with, or it starts more simply. not all, but mainstream songs are somewhat like that?
whereas for chinese songs, love is sung about patience, about letting go, about treasuring a person.
not sure if i'm being fair to make a judgement like this. haha. just something that recurs in my thoughts whenever i listen to chinese vs english songs. heh
somehow or another, english songs tend to treat love slightly more flippantly, as if love can be played with, or it starts more simply. not all, but mainstream songs are somewhat like that?
whereas for chinese songs, love is sung about patience, about letting go, about treasuring a person.
not sure if i'm being fair to make a judgement like this. haha. just something that recurs in my thoughts whenever i listen to chinese vs english songs. heh
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Presented by a clinical psychologist, Dr. Gideon Arulmani, Director of The Promise Foundation India, and International Fellow of the National Institute for Career Education & Counselling (Cambridge, UK) and a professional storyteller, Kamini Ramachandran, Co-Founder of MoonShadow Stories and President of the Storytelling Association (Singapore), this workshop will bring two disciplines, namely, storytelling and counselling together and explore storytelling as a counselling technique. The speakers will present the cultural preparedness approach as a conceptual framework that could guide the development of counselling interventions that are responsive and relevant to felt needs.
--> going for this tmr! :D hahaa. sponsored by school. woohoo!
guess i'd put my gestalt on hold :P
--> going for this tmr! :D hahaa. sponsored by school. woohoo!
guess i'd put my gestalt on hold :P
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Monday, August 15, 2011
hahaa.
Not being able to concentrate on one task for long, this is what my tabs usually look like at 3pm in the afternoon
Full of uncompleted articles to read, and the things I need to attend to.
They will slowly disappear as the day goes by, as I keep switching from one tab to another, and eventually finishing them :). lol
Thank God for a good memory. hahaahaa
Not being able to concentrate on one task for long, this is what my tabs usually look like at 3pm in the afternoon
Full of uncompleted articles to read, and the things I need to attend to.
They will slowly disappear as the day goes by, as I keep switching from one tab to another, and eventually finishing them :). lol
Thank God for a good memory. hahaahaa
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Vanessa Carlton- The One ( With Stevie Nicks)
singing this as the slow song :) hahaaaaa.
pop rock is such a hard genre to define and find.
Monday, August 08, 2011
i guess, in a way, it's kind of expected... knowing the kind of guy he is, and it always seems that he's held out for her through the many years.
and i guess in a way, it doesn't make sense to me when some people change the people they like so quickly. because if that's so, i'd think that it's a matter of lust and infatuation, rather than love. for love perseveres, and holds on, and continues to despite circumstances that occur. and if it can fade away so easily, then how can that love last through the many decades that are to follow? what will happen in the times of hardship? in times when things seem bleak, in times when sacrifice is needed? a love that imitates Christ's love for the church.
i'm just sad that i can't celebrate their togetherness together with the family of God. to rejoice in them together, to participate in their progress, and witness the process coming to past.
and i guess in a way, it doesn't make sense to me when some people change the people they like so quickly. because if that's so, i'd think that it's a matter of lust and infatuation, rather than love. for love perseveres, and holds on, and continues to despite circumstances that occur. and if it can fade away so easily, then how can that love last through the many decades that are to follow? what will happen in the times of hardship? in times when things seem bleak, in times when sacrifice is needed? a love that imitates Christ's love for the church.
i'm just sad that i can't celebrate their togetherness together with the family of God. to rejoice in them together, to participate in their progress, and witness the process coming to past.
Wednesday, August 03, 2011
I went to Yamazaki Sensei's class today. No idea why I thought the sensei's a male.. turns out that she's a female. haha. nice, energetic sensei, a little like me (keeps laughing at things). haha. but not as detailed as Horiuchi sensei. hahaa.
the sensei is nice, but the class ah... aiyoh. dunno whether it's cos there're more working adults in the class, or cos the ppl are all not very good, but the class is less enthusiastic. lol. i prefer my class. more participative :) haha. it's a pity! considering tt Yamazaki sensei is so enthusiastic. haha.
maybe it's complementary. hahaa.
the sensei is nice, but the class ah... aiyoh. dunno whether it's cos there're more working adults in the class, or cos the ppl are all not very good, but the class is less enthusiastic. lol. i prefer my class. more participative :) haha. it's a pity! considering tt Yamazaki sensei is so enthusiastic. haha.
maybe it's complementary. hahaa.
Tuesday, August 02, 2011
Monday, August 01, 2011
From Michael's post on facebook
"Immanuel" (God is with us) is a wonderful word to sum up what happened throughout the weekend. Thank you Ps Jeff and Claudia for leading all of us to love God and follow Him wholeheartedly. Thank you Hope Conference committee. You did an incredible job. And now may we experience "Immanuel" tangibly wherever God has placed us in everyday. :)
--> AMEN! this word came to me when I was praying during Kairos night too.
"Immanuel" (God is with us) is a wonderful word to sum up what happened throughout the weekend. Thank you Ps Jeff and Claudia for leading all of us to love God and follow Him wholeheartedly. Thank you Hope Conference committee. You did an incredible job. And now may we experience "Immanuel" tangibly wherever God has placed us in everyday. :)
--> AMEN! this word came to me when I was praying during Kairos night too.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
yay.
i'm procrastinating.
haha.
the thing about being a sang is when you're at home, and alone, all you can do is to have lots of ideas popping up in your head, and nobody to tell them to. hahaa.
so you write it out on a blog, because blogs are read, ain't they? ;)
anyway, i'm not here to write about an idea. i'm here to help myself concentrate. hahaa.
missing japanese class this sunday cos of conference! will be joining another teacher's class next tuesday instead. Yamazaki sensei O_o
My sensei is Yoruichi sensei :D she's a friendly sensei who's smiling most of the time, but can tell she thinks too. haha. she's from Osaka, always avoids the qns on age, came to Singapore cos she wants to be a Japanese language teacher, and has been in Singapore only for less than half a year. hahaa. she's very patient with us. wahaha. she looks pretty young, so my guess is that she's either around my age, or less than 30.
i think that's all we know about her. hahaa.
conference is tmr and i'm unprepared!
i'm procrastinating.
haha.
the thing about being a sang is when you're at home, and alone, all you can do is to have lots of ideas popping up in your head, and nobody to tell them to. hahaa.
so you write it out on a blog, because blogs are read, ain't they? ;)
anyway, i'm not here to write about an idea. i'm here to help myself concentrate. hahaa.
missing japanese class this sunday cos of conference! will be joining another teacher's class next tuesday instead. Yamazaki sensei O_o
My sensei is Yoruichi sensei :D she's a friendly sensei who's smiling most of the time, but can tell she thinks too. haha. she's from Osaka, always avoids the qns on age, came to Singapore cos she wants to be a Japanese language teacher, and has been in Singapore only for less than half a year. hahaa. she's very patient with us. wahaha. she looks pretty young, so my guess is that she's either around my age, or less than 30.
i think that's all we know about her. hahaa.
conference is tmr and i'm unprepared!
Friday, July 29, 2011
Thursday, July 28, 2011
The Staff Meeting that was originally scheduled to take place on Friday 9 Sep (during the 1-week Sep School Holiday Period) has been cancelled.
As such, staff who are not required to attend to any official duties / work commitments and have the intention to go overseas for a short vacation may do so anytime between Friday 2 Sep (School Holiday as it is Teachers' Day) and Saturday 10 Sep.
All teachers should be back in Singapore latest by Saturday 10 Sep at 11:59pm so that you will have at least one full day rest before Term 4 starts on Mon 12 Sep.
best news in months. haha
As such, staff who are not required to attend to any official duties / work commitments and have the intention to go overseas for a short vacation may do so anytime between Friday 2 Sep (School Holiday as it is Teachers' Day) and Saturday 10 Sep.
All teachers should be back in Singapore latest by Saturday 10 Sep at 11:59pm so that you will have at least one full day rest before Term 4 starts on Mon 12 Sep.
best news in months. haha
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Exhausted.
finally my second case presentation is over :) took lesser time to prepare than i thought.
sleeping for 4 hrs and waking up at 5am is no joke when you're already sleep deprived. wahaha.
realized that thinking of case conceptualization at 5am in the morning helps me to wake up though :) lol
thought i could go back early after counselling to sleep today, but had a last minute arranged meeting instead. hoho. God may You sustain me :)
looking forward for thursday when i can finally sleep early!
finally my second case presentation is over :) took lesser time to prepare than i thought.
sleeping for 4 hrs and waking up at 5am is no joke when you're already sleep deprived. wahaha.
realized that thinking of case conceptualization at 5am in the morning helps me to wake up though :) lol
thought i could go back early after counselling to sleep today, but had a last minute arranged meeting instead. hoho. God may You sustain me :)
looking forward for thursday when i can finally sleep early!
why am i up at 5+ in the morning?
cos i'm finishing up case presentation preparation!
why didn't i do it earlier?
cos last week was super packed, and i couldn't take the video before last week due to constraints.
why didn't i finish it last night?
cos i was falling asleep at 10+ at night, and i could hardly concentrate at 12am!
cos i'm finishing up case presentation preparation!
why didn't i do it earlier?
cos last week was super packed, and i couldn't take the video before last week due to constraints.
why didn't i finish it last night?
cos i was falling asleep at 10+ at night, and i could hardly concentrate at 12am!
Your natural style is probably as an ideological leader. Ideological leaders achieve through the promotion of ideals and values. They keep the focus of the group on those things that are most important. Ideological leadership is founded on a strong belief system that is shared by the group. It focuses effort on supporting those beliefs or championing causes with which they are associated.
Your second natural style is probably as a participative leader. Participative leaders achieve through people, through team work, and through collective involvement in the task. Participative leadership involves building collective ownership and commitment within the group. Participative leaders make people feel valued as an integral part of the team so that everyone achieves the goals through relationships and cooperative teamwork.
Your second natural style is probably as a participative leader. Participative leaders achieve through people, through team work, and through collective involvement in the task. Participative leadership involves building collective ownership and commitment within the group. Participative leaders make people feel valued as an integral part of the team so that everyone achieves the goals through relationships and cooperative teamwork.
Careers for the NF "Idealists" (INFP, ENFP, INFJ, ENFJ)
The Idealists are quite different from the Rational NTs discussed above, and will generally prefer different types of careers. While the NTs gravitate towards the sciences, most NFs do not find such objective and dry topics to their interest. According to Keirsey, the Idealists are on a search for their "true self" and want to make the world a better place to live by helping others. Integrity matters.
NF types with ADD often get by in school and might even do well, depending on their particular circumstances, but they are highly sensitive to criticism and classroom setting. NFs are particularly prone to imaginative daydreaming, even the ones who are not ADD.
According to Keirsey, "Novelists, dramatists, television writers, playwrights, journalists, poets, and biographers are almost exclusively NFs." These are the writers who wish to "inspire and persuade." Note: Most of the personal ADD websites are undoubtedly written by NFs. This is somewhat interesting because Intuitive ADDers often have reading and writing problems, even those who consider themselves to be compulsive readers and writers! I've had several NF ADDers comment that they took ADD medication so they could read better or write with less editing. But it is not so much the "writing" per se as the release of ideas which most attracts the NF. And ADDers are definitely full of ideas.
Idealists are also drawn to teaching, where they are highly over represented. In the teaching field, they often end up arguing with the more common SJ types about how things should be run, arguing on behalf of students or alternative teaching styles. Other fields which NFs are often attracted to are psychiatry, ministry, and acting.
Like the NTs, the NFs are easily bored and often restless, even those who are not ADD. NFs may plan for job or career changes from time to time in order to keep things interesting and challenging.
More detail from "Please Understand Me":
ENFJs "make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and personalized salespersons." To be avoided: accounting. "Almost any people-to-people occupation where personal, sustained contact is involved" will be best for the ENFJ. However, they "experience some degree of restlessness whatever their jobs."
"INFJs make outstanding individual therapists" and "often select liberal arts as a college major and opt for occupations which involve interacting with people on a one-to-one basis."
"ENFPs have a remarkable latitude in career choices and succeed in many fields."
INFP "career choices may be toward the ministry, missionary work, college teaching, psychiatry, architecture, psychology -- and away from business."
The ADD NF: The specific job setting is likely to make the difference for an NF who is ADD. Most importantly, try and find a particular job within your field which has a minimum amount of paperwork or be sure there is reliable support staff. A career of successfully helping people should keep an NF interested in their work, and an interested ADDer is a focused (or hyperfocused) ADDer.
The Idealists are quite different from the Rational NTs discussed above, and will generally prefer different types of careers. While the NTs gravitate towards the sciences, most NFs do not find such objective and dry topics to their interest. According to Keirsey, the Idealists are on a search for their "true self" and want to make the world a better place to live by helping others. Integrity matters.
NF types with ADD often get by in school and might even do well, depending on their particular circumstances, but they are highly sensitive to criticism and classroom setting. NFs are particularly prone to imaginative daydreaming, even the ones who are not ADD.
According to Keirsey, "Novelists, dramatists, television writers, playwrights, journalists, poets, and biographers are almost exclusively NFs." These are the writers who wish to "inspire and persuade." Note: Most of the personal ADD websites are undoubtedly written by NFs. This is somewhat interesting because Intuitive ADDers often have reading and writing problems, even those who consider themselves to be compulsive readers and writers! I've had several NF ADDers comment that they took ADD medication so they could read better or write with less editing. But it is not so much the "writing" per se as the release of ideas which most attracts the NF. And ADDers are definitely full of ideas.
Idealists are also drawn to teaching, where they are highly over represented. In the teaching field, they often end up arguing with the more common SJ types about how things should be run, arguing on behalf of students or alternative teaching styles. Other fields which NFs are often attracted to are psychiatry, ministry, and acting.
Like the NTs, the NFs are easily bored and often restless, even those who are not ADD. NFs may plan for job or career changes from time to time in order to keep things interesting and challenging.
More detail from "Please Understand Me":
ENFJs "make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and personalized salespersons." To be avoided: accounting. "Almost any people-to-people occupation where personal, sustained contact is involved" will be best for the ENFJ. However, they "experience some degree of restlessness whatever their jobs."
"INFJs make outstanding individual therapists" and "often select liberal arts as a college major and opt for occupations which involve interacting with people on a one-to-one basis."
"ENFPs have a remarkable latitude in career choices and succeed in many fields."
INFP "career choices may be toward the ministry, missionary work, college teaching, psychiatry, architecture, psychology -- and away from business."
The ADD NF: The specific job setting is likely to make the difference for an NF who is ADD. Most importantly, try and find a particular job within your field which has a minimum amount of paperwork or be sure there is reliable support staff. A career of successfully helping people should keep an NF interested in their work, and an interested ADDer is a focused (or hyperfocused) ADDer.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
haha. today was a mad rush from place to place.
but was really quite refreshed :)
had counselling, then had hope supervision when i presented my case.
then rushed down to japanese class 15 mins late >_<
and had shepherding :)
but enjoyable! :D hahaa. i was not as tired as i thought i would be.. and i really learned a lot today =D
but was really quite refreshed :)
had counselling, then had hope supervision when i presented my case.
then rushed down to japanese class 15 mins late >_<
and had shepherding :)
but enjoyable! :D hahaa. i was not as tired as i thought i would be.. and i really learned a lot today =D
in my counselling, i am guided by:
1) person-centered therapy
2) psychodynamic theory
i have the following therapy
1) mainly affective interventions (e.g. psychodyanmic and gestalt)
2) behavioural
3) cognitive
4) systemic
lol.
systemic is usually my ending approach. didn't even realize i use a lot of psychodynamic until i evaluated my own methods and how it helps the clients.
using a lot of behavioural with my lower sec students, and a lot of affective with my Hope counsellees
1) person-centered therapy
2) psychodynamic theory
i have the following therapy
1) mainly affective interventions (e.g. psychodyanmic and gestalt)
2) behavioural
3) cognitive
4) systemic
lol.
systemic is usually my ending approach. didn't even realize i use a lot of psychodynamic until i evaluated my own methods and how it helps the clients.
using a lot of behavioural with my lower sec students, and a lot of affective with my Hope counsellees
Friday, July 22, 2011
next week is packed. haha.
i hope i survive.
actually weekend is packed too.
sat - backup singing, service, yg event.
sunday - counselling, hope counselling supervision, japanese lessons, shepherding
monday - work (preparation of case presentation on tuesday, preparation for anger management course, board games day with students) and meetup with rachel
tuesday - cluster supervision in the morning (while students are having YAP). oooh. afternoon is free for me to clear admin stuff!
wednesday - TOP for students in morning, anger management course in the afternoon. means no time to do any work. hoho. japanese lang lessons at night.
thursday - preparation for SPS visit, admin stuff. on course in the afternoon.
friday is SPEECH DAY.
oh man.
no time to meet my students for counselling except for tuesday afternoon and friday :(
i hope i survive.
actually weekend is packed too.
sat - backup singing, service, yg event.
sunday - counselling, hope counselling supervision, japanese lessons, shepherding
monday - work (preparation of case presentation on tuesday, preparation for anger management course, board games day with students) and meetup with rachel
tuesday - cluster supervision in the morning (while students are having YAP). oooh. afternoon is free for me to clear admin stuff!
wednesday - TOP for students in morning, anger management course in the afternoon. means no time to do any work. hoho. japanese lang lessons at night.
thursday - preparation for SPS visit, admin stuff. on course in the afternoon.
friday is SPEECH DAY.
oh man.
no time to meet my students for counselling except for tuesday afternoon and friday :(
Thursday, July 21, 2011
i just want to show off the number of notes i've received today during japanese lanaguage class. hahaa.
here it is:
and there're fun things to do - e.g. mini crossword puzzle and mini finding the word. haha
teacher is japanese and doesn't really know english :(
my classmates are quite okay. haha. very mixed. got friendly people =) a few bankers. interesting.
i'm exhausted.
first lesson, and it was already tiring. haha. i could catch up cos i've learned before. but i think the rest are dying. like really dying.
and to think tt the next session is on sunday! O_O
got dictation on sunday!
oh ya. forgot to mention, the notes and the cd are in addition to the textbook (and the cd that comes with the textbook) that we have!
here it is:
and there're fun things to do - e.g. mini crossword puzzle and mini finding the word. haha
teacher is japanese and doesn't really know english :(
my classmates are quite okay. haha. very mixed. got friendly people =) a few bankers. interesting.
i'm exhausted.
first lesson, and it was already tiring. haha. i could catch up cos i've learned before. but i think the rest are dying. like really dying.
and to think tt the next session is on sunday! O_O
got dictation on sunday!
oh ya. forgot to mention, the notes and the cd are in addition to the textbook (and the cd that comes with the textbook) that we have!
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
for brothers and sisters who struggle with pornography, there's a software called x3watch provided by XXXchurch.com which will track the questionable websites that you visit.
your accountability partner will receive an email from them once every 2 weeks.
a brief excerpt from the email i received:
"X3Watch is free accountability software provided by XXXchurch.com - a non-profit organization which exists to bring awareness, openness, accountability and recovery to the church, society, and individuals in the issues of pornography."
your accountability partner will receive an email from them once every 2 weeks.
a brief excerpt from the email i received:
"X3Watch is free accountability software provided by XXXchurch.com - a non-profit organization which exists to bring awareness, openness, accountability and recovery to the church, society, and individuals in the issues of pornography."
Monday, July 18, 2011
Counselling provides people with an opportunity to help deal with their difficulties, whatever they may be. It is a chance to be listened to and understood. The relationship between counsellor and client is a special one. It is built around trust and support and offers clients a place free from judgement. As such, it is important that there are a number of boundaries and support mechanisms in place to ensure the needs of the client are met. These boundaries should be apparent whether you receive counselling face to face, online or over the telephone
The relationship must always remain professional. This is the case even if you have counselling for years and years. Clients and counsellors are not friends. This distinct difference allows your counsellor to retain a level of objectivity that a friend will struggle with when you go to them with your problems. Your friend may have a stake in the outcome of your problems that a counsellor will not have. For example, despite being supportive, your friend hopes you will split up with your boyfriend as they never liked him. You can get on really well with your counsellor but the relationship should always remain formal. If you suddenly start meeting outside sessions with your counsellor for coffee for example, this boundary is lost and the relationship is compromised. (there was once when i did go out with my counsellee as a reward for something she's done. though i made it very clear that it was a reward for the growth in what she was doing.)
Another boundary to be aware of is that counselling is not about telling you what to do. Counsellors will work towards self awareness and help promote change. Clients are regarded as experts in their own life and capable of making decisions. Counselling can help clarify these decisions and broaden perspectives. Again, this is how a counsellor can be more effective than a friend as it is so easy for a friend to give advice that may or may not be helpful to your particular experience. Ever known someone who responds to your problems by saying "I know what you mean, that happened to me", then launch into a totally unrelated story about themselves?
A client should always feel safe in a counselling relationship. There should not be any untoward touching, or interaction that the client feels is inappropriate. Related to the idea of safety, you will find counsellors like to begin and end sessions on time, therefore providing a space set aside just for clients, where the boundaries are clear.
Finally, sometimes a client may be referred to another support agency. This may happen if the counsellor acknowledges that the client can get better help elsewhere or if boundaries are broken. Counsellors do not have all the answers and they should never imply that they do.
The relationship must always remain professional. This is the case even if you have counselling for years and years. Clients and counsellors are not friends. This distinct difference allows your counsellor to retain a level of objectivity that a friend will struggle with when you go to them with your problems. Your friend may have a stake in the outcome of your problems that a counsellor will not have. For example, despite being supportive, your friend hopes you will split up with your boyfriend as they never liked him. You can get on really well with your counsellor but the relationship should always remain formal. If you suddenly start meeting outside sessions with your counsellor for coffee for example, this boundary is lost and the relationship is compromised. (there was once when i did go out with my counsellee as a reward for something she's done. though i made it very clear that it was a reward for the growth in what she was doing.)
Another boundary to be aware of is that counselling is not about telling you what to do. Counsellors will work towards self awareness and help promote change. Clients are regarded as experts in their own life and capable of making decisions. Counselling can help clarify these decisions and broaden perspectives. Again, this is how a counsellor can be more effective than a friend as it is so easy for a friend to give advice that may or may not be helpful to your particular experience. Ever known someone who responds to your problems by saying "I know what you mean, that happened to me", then launch into a totally unrelated story about themselves?
A client should always feel safe in a counselling relationship. There should not be any untoward touching, or interaction that the client feels is inappropriate. Related to the idea of safety, you will find counsellors like to begin and end sessions on time, therefore providing a space set aside just for clients, where the boundaries are clear.
Finally, sometimes a client may be referred to another support agency. This may happen if the counsellor acknowledges that the client can get better help elsewhere or if boundaries are broken. Counsellors do not have all the answers and they should never imply that they do.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
heh. i slipped in my counselling today.
didn't prepare myself emotional and mentally for the intensity of the sharing of the session, and thus was affected more than i should have been.
not sure if that's a good thing (i've not grown numb towards things), or a bad thing (it affected me such that i found myself trembling after the session and had to pray).
praying for greater resilience and wisdom! :D
didn't prepare myself emotional and mentally for the intensity of the sharing of the session, and thus was affected more than i should have been.
not sure if that's a good thing (i've not grown numb towards things), or a bad thing (it affected me such that i found myself trembling after the session and had to pray).
praying for greater resilience and wisdom! :D
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
each year i get tempted by beauty.
last year was the lure of italy, and the speed of iphone 4.
this year, the one which tempts me comes in a thin, sleek form:
http://www.engadget.com/2011/03/28/samsung-series-9-900x-laptop-review/
last year was the lure of italy, and the speed of iphone 4.
this year, the one which tempts me comes in a thin, sleek form:
http://www.engadget.com/2011/03/28/samsung-series-9-900x-laptop-review/
i was going to type a long post griping about people's over obsession over money and safety. but i think at the end of the day, it's more of how i prefer my way of living life over others'.
but at least today, if i die, i can say that i've genuinely lived life. not because of the trips i've taken, or the things i've done, but rather, by the people i've shared life with, and by forging forward instead of holding back.
but at least today, if i die, i can say that i've genuinely lived life. not because of the trips i've taken, or the things i've done, but rather, by the people i've shared life with, and by forging forward instead of holding back.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Sunday, July 10, 2011
i think comments are very potent.
i can still remember one of the most hurtful comments i've had in my life came from someone who i was supposed to look up to.
it was a comment which compared me to another sister.
and though i think i blogged about it before, and i don't hold a grudge towards the sister, the impact of the comment still remains.
such tt whenever i look at the other sister, subconsciously i'd have that statement pop up in my mind.
scary!
another one came just last yr. it was a comment which really upset me cos it caused me to question my identity. haha.
and funnily, it came from someone i really really trusted at that time.
and similarly, i dun hold a grudge towards that person, but i can't deny that whenever i talk to the person, the impact still remains.
i can still remember one of the most hurtful comments i've had in my life came from someone who i was supposed to look up to.
it was a comment which compared me to another sister.
and though i think i blogged about it before, and i don't hold a grudge towards the sister, the impact of the comment still remains.
such tt whenever i look at the other sister, subconsciously i'd have that statement pop up in my mind.
scary!
another one came just last yr. it was a comment which really upset me cos it caused me to question my identity. haha.
and funnily, it came from someone i really really trusted at that time.
and similarly, i dun hold a grudge towards that person, but i can't deny that whenever i talk to the person, the impact still remains.
haven't updated on new couplings. LOL.
heard of one new coupling a few weeks ago. hahaa.
hmm. kinda expected it. just tt this coupling took a few years to form.
glad for them!
realized tt i have a flair for spotting future couplings, or bumping into underground couples.
and a flair for spotting ppl with same sex inclinations.
heard of one new coupling a few weeks ago. hahaa.
hmm. kinda expected it. just tt this coupling took a few years to form.
glad for them!
realized tt i have a flair for spotting future couplings, or bumping into underground couples.
and a flair for spotting ppl with same sex inclinations.
Friday, July 08, 2011
sleepy.
just came back from going with the students to changi airport for their Time Out Programme.
realized that:
1) students really don't share as much to teachers as to external vendors (despite how close the teacher is to them)
2) point no. 1 affects me slightly because i like to know deep about people
3) i've grown in this area of point no.1 because i would have been quite affected in the past. now i just take it that everyone has different people they feel more comfortable to share to. i don't necessarily have to be the one.
4) there're some people whom i'm scared of asking deep, or of confronting. i'm not usually scared of confronting people, but am fearful of confronting some people.
5) no. 4 makes me go 'oh dear'.
just came back from going with the students to changi airport for their Time Out Programme.
realized that:
1) students really don't share as much to teachers as to external vendors (despite how close the teacher is to them)
2) point no. 1 affects me slightly because i like to know deep about people
3) i've grown in this area of point no.1 because i would have been quite affected in the past. now i just take it that everyone has different people they feel more comfortable to share to. i don't necessarily have to be the one.
4) there're some people whom i'm scared of asking deep, or of confronting. i'm not usually scared of confronting people, but am fearful of confronting some people.
5) no. 4 makes me go 'oh dear'.
Tuesday, July 05, 2011
the first surprise I have of today: a student i didn't expect to come, reaching early to meet me for the YAP, and being the only one to do so.
the first irritant of the morning: P coming in and complaining about the absentees in school.
the first reminder of the morning: Pastor Jeff's note on facebook to commit the day to the HS
choosing to focus on what's ahead, rather than let the negative beat me down :)
the first irritant of the morning: P coming in and complaining about the absentees in school.
the first reminder of the morning: Pastor Jeff's note on facebook to commit the day to the HS
choosing to focus on what's ahead, rather than let the negative beat me down :)
Sunday, July 03, 2011
i read a graphic novel which contained compilations of artists' works on their response to 9/11 today. very touching. it's just a compilation of different thoughts/responses/viewpoints on the events of 9/11. some stories touched on people who survived and what happened to them, some on the family members, some on other people who have heard of the incident.. things like that. how it impacted them, how it moulded their thoughts.
there's a continual welling up of emotions, of sadness, of hope, of wander at the heroic actions of ordinary people, or amazement at how a tragic event like this could be turned into something hopeful.. i was particularly touched by a child's recount of a dream of his mother who was one of the police officers who helped save people during the 9/11 incident, but died. he continually stands up strong in view of life, cos his mum told him to.
it's about the things that really matter, now that death has stood before them. and about how to make sense of what has happened. it's about remembering, and continually recovering from the grief. it's about a replay of messages left on that day. it's about grace that's been shown, despite the pain that is abundantly present.
and though it happened around 10 years ago, i'm still touched by the responses shown through the graphic novel.
amazing how life is.
there's a continual welling up of emotions, of sadness, of hope, of wander at the heroic actions of ordinary people, or amazement at how a tragic event like this could be turned into something hopeful.. i was particularly touched by a child's recount of a dream of his mother who was one of the police officers who helped save people during the 9/11 incident, but died. he continually stands up strong in view of life, cos his mum told him to.
it's about the things that really matter, now that death has stood before them. and about how to make sense of what has happened. it's about remembering, and continually recovering from the grief. it's about a replay of messages left on that day. it's about grace that's been shown, despite the pain that is abundantly present.
and though it happened around 10 years ago, i'm still touched by the responses shown through the graphic novel.
amazing how life is.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
i think the good thing about being 25 is that you can continue to dream big for God :) or just to dream :D hahaha.
that's something i think i do quite well - dream.
have lost a bit of my dreams in these 2 years, what with jobs and what nots..
but recently, specifically in june, these dreams have been coming back :D wow. it's only been 28 days since the start of June.
i feel very rejuvenated. and refreshed.
physically tired, but emotionally and spiritually recharged.
found a programme online that allows me to go to work in Japan (though only for 1 yr) :O
approx 3,600,000 yen per annum (!! that's like at least 12K more than what i earn per year), and working for approx 35 hours per week (!! i work for around 45 hours per week!)
I'd have to pay for my own housing though.. and it'd not be in a big city (meaning, no Tokyo. hahaa)
something i can keep in mind i guess :)
i wanna study my japanese language first.
that's something i think i do quite well - dream.
have lost a bit of my dreams in these 2 years, what with jobs and what nots..
but recently, specifically in june, these dreams have been coming back :D wow. it's only been 28 days since the start of June.
i feel very rejuvenated. and refreshed.
physically tired, but emotionally and spiritually recharged.
found a programme online that allows me to go to work in Japan (though only for 1 yr) :O
approx 3,600,000 yen per annum (!! that's like at least 12K more than what i earn per year), and working for approx 35 hours per week (!! i work for around 45 hours per week!)
I'd have to pay for my own housing though.. and it'd not be in a big city (meaning, no Tokyo. hahaa)
something i can keep in mind i guess :)
i wanna study my japanese language first.
Monday, June 27, 2011
recently it struck me that i have a lot of time on my hands. LOL.
and it also struck me that i can use the time to do things that i like or learn things that i want to learn.
okay. don't ask why it's a realization to me. it just is.
it's like oohhh.. i can actually use this time to learn something i do want to learn, instead of planning for other people, or to help others to learn things they want to learn. wahaha.
so i think, i'm going to take up courses :D
specifically
1) japanese language courses (taking from the start! let me know if you'd like to join me. hee. most probably taking at Ikoma language school :) a little more expensive, but i wanna take all the way (meaning 5-7 years' worth of studying japanese. hahaa). as such, i want a good school. heard they give good notes :)
2) Hope Sem courses. i really enjoyed the hope sem courses i took in the past (OT Survey, NT Survey 1 and 2). maybe cos i really enjoy learning about the Word. hahaha. one of my pathways to God.
think these 2 would keep me rather busy. heh.
oh. i also recently realized (AGAIN) that i'm only 25. my gosh. i feel like i'm 30 at times. like a lot of years have passed since i've started working. at the very least, a lot of things have happened. i'm still not totally mature, but i feel more mature, and more hardworking >_< hahaha.
in the future, i would also want to take up
1) sign language (okay, i do have some fetish about languages. hahaha)
2) piano classes
i've been devouring books too (albeit many graphic novels. hahahaa). about an average of 5 per week (including proper storybooks).
maybe i DO have too much time on my hands? (but it doesn't seem that way leh. hahaha. maybe cos i travel a lot. and i read when i travel). haha.
quite enjoyable period of time :D hope this continues :D
and it also struck me that i can use the time to do things that i like or learn things that i want to learn.
okay. don't ask why it's a realization to me. it just is.
it's like oohhh.. i can actually use this time to learn something i do want to learn, instead of planning for other people, or to help others to learn things they want to learn. wahaha.
so i think, i'm going to take up courses :D
specifically
1) japanese language courses (taking from the start! let me know if you'd like to join me. hee. most probably taking at Ikoma language school :) a little more expensive, but i wanna take all the way (meaning 5-7 years' worth of studying japanese. hahaa). as such, i want a good school. heard they give good notes :)
2) Hope Sem courses. i really enjoyed the hope sem courses i took in the past (OT Survey, NT Survey 1 and 2). maybe cos i really enjoy learning about the Word. hahaha. one of my pathways to God.
think these 2 would keep me rather busy. heh.
oh. i also recently realized (AGAIN) that i'm only 25. my gosh. i feel like i'm 30 at times. like a lot of years have passed since i've started working. at the very least, a lot of things have happened. i'm still not totally mature, but i feel more mature, and more hardworking >_< hahaha.
in the future, i would also want to take up
1) sign language (okay, i do have some fetish about languages. hahaha)
2) piano classes
i've been devouring books too (albeit many graphic novels. hahahaa). about an average of 5 per week (including proper storybooks).
maybe i DO have too much time on my hands? (but it doesn't seem that way leh. hahaha. maybe cos i travel a lot. and i read when i travel). haha.
quite enjoyable period of time :D hope this continues :D
[HQ] Born To Be A Lady - SNSD
I like this song :) maybe cos it's jpop-ish. haha. i like how it's feminine and hopeful. haha
Sunday, June 26, 2011
i realize that i need to get out of the house.
for 2 very practical reasons. haha.
1) to get things done. my planning is primarily done out of house. and done in bright air-con-y places (which made Tokyo a good place for me to be in because of the cold weather). if my room has aircon, it'd achieve the same purpose too i guess :)
2) i relish the time spent alone. haha. it's interesting. i realize that i enjoy the time alone cos it helps me to reconcile my thoughts. and though i'm alone, my thoughts keep on running, so it's rather enjoyable to hear my running thoughts. as well as to read and read and read. and plan. haha
for 2 very practical reasons. haha.
1) to get things done. my planning is primarily done out of house. and done in bright air-con-y places (which made Tokyo a good place for me to be in because of the cold weather). if my room has aircon, it'd achieve the same purpose too i guess :)
2) i relish the time spent alone. haha. it's interesting. i realize that i enjoy the time alone cos it helps me to reconcile my thoughts. and though i'm alone, my thoughts keep on running, so it's rather enjoyable to hear my running thoughts. as well as to read and read and read. and plan. haha
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
sleepy. haha. the girls only slept at 2.30am (and so did i), and the cold aircon (there were not enough blankets) woke me up. i ended up sleeping in the living room at 5+, feeling uncomfortable with lots of noises around. had to pray before feeling more comfortable and then dozing off, before waking up again at 6.45am cos my girls were up. haha.
but quite free now. the girls and guy are marinating stuff for the bbq later, and the trainer's with them. i'm like sitting in the aircon room slacking away. hahaa. and falling asleep. hahaa.
but quite free now. the girls and guy are marinating stuff for the bbq later, and the trainer's with them. i'm like sitting in the aircon room slacking away. hahaa. and falling asleep. hahaa.
just spent a day with my students and the vendors :) on TOP camp.
turn out is quite disappointing. one's sick. one's not coming cos had to take care of siblings (??), one has work, one's gone to friend's birthday party -_- one's uncontactable O_o
having quality chats with the remaining ones though. finding out about their family situation, and what they're facing at this moment. at the age of 15-16, these students have seen their fair share of divorce, of having to work intensely during holidays cos of financial issues, of having to worry about family situations such as parents not having any work at all...things like that
hope to have more quality time with them :)
turn out is quite disappointing. one's sick. one's not coming cos had to take care of siblings (??), one has work, one's gone to friend's birthday party -_- one's uncontactable O_o
having quality chats with the remaining ones though. finding out about their family situation, and what they're facing at this moment. at the age of 15-16, these students have seen their fair share of divorce, of having to work intensely during holidays cos of financial issues, of having to worry about family situations such as parents not having any work at all...things like that
hope to have more quality time with them :)
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Things that I would never be able to understand:
1) the love of God. why did He choose me to love me, to bless me, to help me, to be with me, to desire for me to grow, to desire for me to be in fellowship with Him?
2) the love of parents. despite being annoyed with them at times, why the desire to take care, the bothersome caring and fussing over?
3) the love of brothers and sisters in church. like, erm. we're not even related by blood. but the fact that we're bound by Spirit has caused me to witness love that i've not experienced before. what is friendship when compared to unconditional love shown? who am i to you that you would accept my nonsensical ways and still love me?
4) the love of my friends. haha. i think i know fantastic friends. fantastic people doing fantastic things in their lives. of all people, why choose me as your friend?
5) the forgiveness that i've received from various people in my life. i am truly humbled. that despite the wrongs i've done to people, or the inadequacies i've shown to them, or unfaithful moments, that they forgive me, and sometimes even affirm me.
6) the grace of God. that many a times, despite me doing nothing, or being unfaithful, or doing lots of boo boos, Your grace worked through me (and the fact that You still allowed Your grace to work through me O_o have i not muddled up Your plans enough? and yet, the audacity of me to think that i can meddle up God's plans. haha) that produced beautiful fruit in people. lovely people who desire to love You and desire to be obedient.
7) how people can leave God despite knowing Him.
1) the love of God. why did He choose me to love me, to bless me, to help me, to be with me, to desire for me to grow, to desire for me to be in fellowship with Him?
2) the love of parents. despite being annoyed with them at times, why the desire to take care, the bothersome caring and fussing over?
3) the love of brothers and sisters in church. like, erm. we're not even related by blood. but the fact that we're bound by Spirit has caused me to witness love that i've not experienced before. what is friendship when compared to unconditional love shown? who am i to you that you would accept my nonsensical ways and still love me?
4) the love of my friends. haha. i think i know fantastic friends. fantastic people doing fantastic things in their lives. of all people, why choose me as your friend?
5) the forgiveness that i've received from various people in my life. i am truly humbled. that despite the wrongs i've done to people, or the inadequacies i've shown to them, or unfaithful moments, that they forgive me, and sometimes even affirm me.
6) the grace of God. that many a times, despite me doing nothing, or being unfaithful, or doing lots of boo boos, Your grace worked through me (and the fact that You still allowed Your grace to work through me O_o have i not muddled up Your plans enough? and yet, the audacity of me to think that i can meddle up God's plans. haha) that produced beautiful fruit in people. lovely people who desire to love You and desire to be obedient.
7) how people can leave God despite knowing Him.
Monday, June 20, 2011
Friday, June 17, 2011
on a more female note, i've recently been using hado labo facial wash (bought from Tokyo cos i forgot to bring my facial wash there. hoho). and i bought Moist Labo Bb Cream (only available in Japan) there as well. i tried both products, and it's been good to my skin! hahaa. especially the bb cream! my mini pimples kinda went down after using it =) hahaa.
sadly, i couldn't buy additional tubes of it cos it was sold out in the pharmacies i went to D:
not sure if it's the additional moisture provided by hado labo, or the effect of the bb cream.
at any rate, i think i'd be using them a little more :D
sadly, i couldn't buy additional tubes of it cos it was sold out in the pharmacies i went to D:
not sure if it's the additional moisture provided by hado labo, or the effect of the bb cream.
at any rate, i think i'd be using them a little more :D
Thursday, June 16, 2011
I watched Jane Eyre today :) caught the 10.30am show at Lido. Was pleasantly surprised to see that Lido has been renovated, and it certainly is classier and much more comfortable than it was before. having said that, combo no.4 (which comprised of a hot dog bun and a drink) was really quite terrible for the price that it asked for.
I liked the movie. quite a bit actually :) I liked the foreboding undercurrents that played through the movie, and the muted colours of the victorian age. i thought to myself about how nice it would be to be in that age, and then upon seeing how they deal with the kids then, i decided that it was good that i was not belonging to that period of time.
i enjoyed Jane's spunkiness and resilience through life and circumstances, and the conversations she has with the people around her. i like her steelness and her stillness, and pretty much enjoyed how the film played out in the end. it was not easy to catch some of the words due to the accent though, and the lack of subtitles were not exactly helpful.
i actually quite like the dynamism between Mr Rochester and her.. and here's a snippet of one of the most critical dialogues in the show (and no, it won't spoil the movie for u.. 'cos the acting out of the dialogue was intricately done, and could only be witnessed properly through the viewing of the movie) and i quite like the dynamism of it.
Rochester: I know you; you're thinking. Talking is of no use, you're thinking how to act.
Jane Eyre: All has changed sir. I must leave you.
Rochester: No. No. Jane do you love me.
[Jane nods]
Rochester: Then the essential things are the same. Be my wife.
Jane Eyre: You have a wife.
Rochester: I pledge you my honor, my fidelity...
Jane Eyre: You cannot.
Rochester: ...my love until death do us part.
Jane Eyre: What of truth?
Rochester: I would have told you the truth.
Jane Eyre: You are deceitful sir.
Rochester: I was wrong to deceive you. I see that now, it was cowardly. I should have appealed to your spirit as I do now. Bertha Antoinette Mason, she was wanted by my father for her fortune. I hardly spoke with her before the wedding. I lived with her for 4 years. Her temper ripened, her vices sprang up, violent and unchaste. Only cruelty would check her and I'd not use cruelty. I was chained to her for life Jane. Not even the law could free me. Have you ever set foot in a mad house Jane?
Jane Eyre: No sir.
Rochester: The inmates are caged and bated like beasts. I spared her that at least. Jane?
Jane Eyre: Yes I pity you sir.
Rochester: Who would you offend by living with me? Who would care?
Jane Eyre: I would.
Rochester: You would rather drive me to madness than break some mere human law.
Jane Eyre: I must respect myself.
Rochester: Listen to me. Listen. I could bend you with my finger and my thumb. A mere reed you feel in my hands. But whatever I do with this cage, I cannot get at you, and it is your soul that I want. Why can't you come of your own free will?
Jane Eyre: God help me.
:)
After Jane Eyre (dun expect an action flick though), i went down to Cineleisure for 2 more movies :X Pirates of the Caribbean, and Kungfu Panda 2 :D Pirates was entertaining with its beautiful visuals (once again), as well as the well planned moves of Jack Sparrow in all his nonsensical wittiness. haha. i liked Kungfu Panda 2's slant towards focusing on his past, of making sense of his past and finding his own identity, as well as the msg of how he may not have come from a good past, but it's what he does in the future that matters more. i like that msg, and i believe it would resonate with quite a few of us as well :)
i also finished the book i was reading "more than it hurts you" (which I've been trying to finish since bringing it to Japan. haha). it touched on Münchausen syndrome by proxy which was new and fresh to me (and a rather scary thought actually). and it does sound like a disorder, to be honest. was interesting :) the writing style was not particularly polished though. thought it could have been wtitten better. it was a gripping subject at any rate :)
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
thank God for...
- being able to wake up on time for my flight! actually woke up a few times.. once at 5am (4am Singapore time), and finally at 5.30am to wash up and go off for my flight.
- for the japanese guy who so nicely helped me carry my 27.5kg luggage up the stairs of minamisenju (there was no lift in the south exit!), and then helped me carry it out at ueno before going back into the train again. made me feel so glad after tt. hahaa.
- for my flight seat partner (another japanese)! hahaa. due to the above, i was feeling charitable and helped him a little when i saw him continue to look at his immigration form for a LONG period of time. haha. with my limited japanese, i managed to help him with a few columns before i couldn't :\ but he was a nice seat partner. didn't move much, and let me out whenever i needed to go to the washroom. and he kept to his seat. so even though i had a window seat, i had a lot of room :)
- for the changi airport uncle who helped me lift my luggage onto the trolley! LOL. i couldn't really do it with my packs of stuff on hand.
- for my parents who came to fetch me after a phonecall :D
- for God for being my companion and protector through the time in Japan! :)
- for my cat who didn't shun me when i came back, but just stayed by my side throughout the whole time when i was trying to unpack and sort out my things. hahahaa
- being able to wake up on time for my flight! actually woke up a few times.. once at 5am (4am Singapore time), and finally at 5.30am to wash up and go off for my flight.
- for the japanese guy who so nicely helped me carry my 27.5kg luggage up the stairs of minamisenju (there was no lift in the south exit!), and then helped me carry it out at ueno before going back into the train again. made me feel so glad after tt. hahaa.
- for my flight seat partner (another japanese)! hahaa. due to the above, i was feeling charitable and helped him a little when i saw him continue to look at his immigration form for a LONG period of time. haha. with my limited japanese, i managed to help him with a few columns before i couldn't :\ but he was a nice seat partner. didn't move much, and let me out whenever i needed to go to the washroom. and he kept to his seat. so even though i had a window seat, i had a lot of room :)
- for the changi airport uncle who helped me lift my luggage onto the trolley! LOL. i couldn't really do it with my packs of stuff on hand.
- for my parents who came to fetch me after a phonecall :D
- for God for being my companion and protector through the time in Japan! :)
- for my cat who didn't shun me when i came back, but just stayed by my side throughout the whole time when i was trying to unpack and sort out my things. hahahaa
Monday, June 13, 2011
Saturday, June 11, 2011
To live one's passion means to be prepared to take a leap out of the comfort zone which is certainly not an easy thing to do. But there is a method which may help you do this easier. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Now think about all the things that you could be doing. You are now looking at the one person preventing you from fulfilling your passion - how do you feel about that?
Many folks "wait for the right timing" before making a leap but there is never a right timing. What these folks are actually waiting for is a "comfortable exit" and there is no such thing. Living a passion is not an easy thing to come by and is only rewarded to those who take risks. Taking a risk willy nilly could be a bad thing but there is such a thing as a calculated risk.
--> yea man. though i believe that there is an actual right timing.. heh. but i also believe that sometimes we miss that right timing because we continue to be fearful of taking that leap. it's a balance between waiting on God for the right timing and taking the leap of faith ba. if it's the wrong timing, and u take a leap, it's not a leap of faith. haha. it's a leap of recklessness. hahaha
Many folks "wait for the right timing" before making a leap but there is never a right timing. What these folks are actually waiting for is a "comfortable exit" and there is no such thing. Living a passion is not an easy thing to come by and is only rewarded to those who take risks. Taking a risk willy nilly could be a bad thing but there is such a thing as a calculated risk.
--> yea man. though i believe that there is an actual right timing.. heh. but i also believe that sometimes we miss that right timing because we continue to be fearful of taking that leap. it's a balance between waiting on God for the right timing and taking the leap of faith ba. if it's the wrong timing, and u take a leap, it's not a leap of faith. haha. it's a leap of recklessness. hahaha
Got this from Danny's blog while searching up on Nakano Broadway. Thought this is interesting :)
"As a manager at Amazon, I drew a pie chart that my staff started to call "Danny's Pie" which if you say very fast could be made to sound like "Danny's Oppai."
The pie is divided into three - each piece is 8 hours. Presuming that you work 8 hours and sleep for 8 hours then you have 8 hours remaining which is one slice of the pie. I then start to cut up the remaining piece.
The 8 remaining hours is needed for things like personal hygiene, nourishment intake, health care (very important), cleaning, commuting and other chores which are important in life but generally don't contribute a whole lot to your career or personal development.
If you subtract the time needed for all the above from the final piece of the pie then all you would have left each day is 4-ish hours which you need to use on spending with friends/loved ones, entertainment/recreation and personal development - learning a new subject, beefing up current skills, researching etc.
Now imagine that you spent more than 8 hours at work. In order to do the other stuff, you would either have to sleep less or start to drop some of the other stuff. Some folks with long work hours drop "personal development" which I consider to be crucial to the development of an employee's life, career and well being.
Outside of work and sleep, if you are not getting your 8 hours then perhaps its time do something about it? Could it be the lack of your 8 hours that your Japanese studying is always put on the back burner?"
haha. i shall draw up my pie soon :)
"As a manager at Amazon, I drew a pie chart that my staff started to call "Danny's Pie" which if you say very fast could be made to sound like "Danny's Oppai."
The pie is divided into three - each piece is 8 hours. Presuming that you work 8 hours and sleep for 8 hours then you have 8 hours remaining which is one slice of the pie. I then start to cut up the remaining piece.
The 8 remaining hours is needed for things like personal hygiene, nourishment intake, health care (very important), cleaning, commuting and other chores which are important in life but generally don't contribute a whole lot to your career or personal development.
If you subtract the time needed for all the above from the final piece of the pie then all you would have left each day is 4-ish hours which you need to use on spending with friends/loved ones, entertainment/recreation and personal development - learning a new subject, beefing up current skills, researching etc.
Now imagine that you spent more than 8 hours at work. In order to do the other stuff, you would either have to sleep less or start to drop some of the other stuff. Some folks with long work hours drop "personal development" which I consider to be crucial to the development of an employee's life, career and well being.
Outside of work and sleep, if you are not getting your 8 hours then perhaps its time do something about it? Could it be the lack of your 8 hours that your Japanese studying is always put on the back burner?"
haha. i shall draw up my pie soon :)
Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Second day of the trip in tokyo :) starting to get used to the tokyo metro system, though getting around in large stations is still confusing and slightly frustrating for me. haha
i actually quite like the neighbourhood that i'm in, cos it's more sub-urbanish and not so crowded :) so quite few people around. our hotel owner/helper is also very nice.. in that they've been really friendly and helpful. for e.g. i need to transfer room on thursday morning, so need to check out, and then check in again. i wanted to send rachel off at Ueno station and then come back to check out the room, and then go out again, but the owner actually said that he'd pass me the keys to the other room so that i can shift my luggage there, and that in the morning i just have to deposit the key under the shutter for them. in that way, i don't have to come back just to check out (cos originally they only open at 7am, and if i deposit my bag and re-check in, i'd have to come back after 7am to do that since rachel is leaving before 7am) so nice of them.
haven't gone to any museums as of yet. hope to be able to do so after rachel leaves. heh. haven't gone to akiba yet either D: hahaha
i actually quite like the neighbourhood that i'm in, cos it's more sub-urbanish and not so crowded :) so quite few people around. our hotel owner/helper is also very nice.. in that they've been really friendly and helpful. for e.g. i need to transfer room on thursday morning, so need to check out, and then check in again. i wanted to send rachel off at Ueno station and then come back to check out the room, and then go out again, but the owner actually said that he'd pass me the keys to the other room so that i can shift my luggage there, and that in the morning i just have to deposit the key under the shutter for them. in that way, i don't have to come back just to check out (cos originally they only open at 7am, and if i deposit my bag and re-check in, i'd have to come back after 7am to do that since rachel is leaving before 7am) so nice of them.
haven't gone to any museums as of yet. hope to be able to do so after rachel leaves. heh. haven't gone to akiba yet either D: hahaha
Thursday, June 02, 2011
yay! i got my camera batt charged. haha.
thank God that i found it :D glad :)
here are some random photos. haha
Body Shop's having sales now :) bought 4 of these for $10. usual price is 3 for $12.90 :D hee. just nice for my tokyo trip :)
book that i'm reading at this moment :) present from my shepherd. hahaa. she bought one for herself too. hahahaa. i enjoy how each shepherd's different from each other :)
locked in an eternal staring contest:
thank God that i found it :D glad :)
here are some random photos. haha
Body Shop's having sales now :) bought 4 of these for $10. usual price is 3 for $12.90 :D hee. just nice for my tokyo trip :)
book that i'm reading at this moment :) present from my shepherd. hahaa. she bought one for herself too. hahahaa. i enjoy how each shepherd's different from each other :)
locked in an eternal staring contest:
Wednesday, June 01, 2011
feeling a little tired.
realized that my tolerance level is going down :(
am now more easily affected by the counselling sessions i have.
starting to be more draining.
on the other hand, there's been a big breakthrough in my hope counselling case. hope to be able to continue to help her with it.
my heart feels weak this morning. things tt happen at home.
and the continuous news of pple dying.
just received the news of a sister's grandpa's death.
weary, but not cynical of life.
realized that my tolerance level is going down :(
am now more easily affected by the counselling sessions i have.
starting to be more draining.
on the other hand, there's been a big breakthrough in my hope counselling case. hope to be able to continue to help her with it.
my heart feels weak this morning. things tt happen at home.
and the continuous news of pple dying.
just received the news of a sister's grandpa's death.
weary, but not cynical of life.