IF you suspect that you grew up in a dysfunctional home, do check out this website
http://www.eqi.org/index.htm
and either speak to me (if you're comfortable to), or find a trusted friend or speak to your shepherd about it. Make sense of experiences that happened before, and examine how it may still affect you :)
Let's do this so that we don't create an emotionally abusive environment for the family we'd have in the future :)