LOL. SNSD tickets sold out within 10 minutes of special Samsung mobile pre-sales. this is madness O_o all 5500 tickets are sold.
i was in conference when i received smses from junyao informing me of the updates. wahh. lots of black market sales going on now. hahaaaaaaaa
Friday, October 28, 2011
Thursday, October 27, 2011
it's actually quite irritating how there's a delay in the sinking in of 'reactive emotions' towards events. like for this, it's a 9 months delay.
it's as if my body went into strict denial for 9 months, and in a time when it's finally safe (or rather, now that there's time to deal with them) to acknowledge the emotions, the denial lapses and everything floods in.
and i'm left wondering why i'm angry and disappointed with the person after a 9 months lapse.
it's as if my body went into strict denial for 9 months, and in a time when it's finally safe (or rather, now that there's time to deal with them) to acknowledge the emotions, the denial lapses and everything floods in.
and i'm left wondering why i'm angry and disappointed with the person after a 9 months lapse.
ADHD:
hyperactivity -
one example:
You may get bored easily. Boredom begins to set in about 15 minutes after you begin a project, or a few months after you begin a new job. You find TV boring, the computer is better, a little more interactive, but still becomes boring. You have an intense need to make everything in life a little more interesting. You food contains more spices, your desk contains toys, your life is filled with gadgets that looked great at the store but you lost interest when you got home.
another example (i used to get scolded for this a lot. haha. like all the way from when i was very young i was scolded for this. then ppl kept giving me strategies (e.g. junting asked me to write down my thoughts first)
You may interrupt others or answer a question before the other person is finished. Entering in a conversation in the middle of someone else’s sentence can be embarrassing and lead to others thinking that you are rude and inconsiderate.
Example #3:
You may become restless after a few minutes of inactivity. Time to sit down to a relaxing evening with your partner and 15 minutes later you are ready to go and do something, or you begin to fade in and out of the conversation, planning what else you can do. You spend your day at work walking around and talking, getting coffee, making phone calls or anything else you can do to relieve the restlessness from sitting at a desk.
Emotional Turmoil:
You may become easily angered. Do you find your temper rising over the smallest incident? Does your family and friends wonder why you can get angry so quickly? At the same time, are you able to release your anger quickly, left wondering what all the fuss is about?
--> used to say that my emotions come very fast, but they disappear very fast too. ah well
hyperactivity -
one example:
You may get bored easily. Boredom begins to set in about 15 minutes after you begin a project, or a few months after you begin a new job. You find TV boring, the computer is better, a little more interactive, but still becomes boring. You have an intense need to make everything in life a little more interesting. You food contains more spices, your desk contains toys, your life is filled with gadgets that looked great at the store but you lost interest when you got home.
another example (i used to get scolded for this a lot. haha. like all the way from when i was very young i was scolded for this. then ppl kept giving me strategies (e.g. junting asked me to write down my thoughts first)
You may interrupt others or answer a question before the other person is finished. Entering in a conversation in the middle of someone else’s sentence can be embarrassing and lead to others thinking that you are rude and inconsiderate.
Example #3:
You may become restless after a few minutes of inactivity. Time to sit down to a relaxing evening with your partner and 15 minutes later you are ready to go and do something, or you begin to fade in and out of the conversation, planning what else you can do. You spend your day at work walking around and talking, getting coffee, making phone calls or anything else you can do to relieve the restlessness from sitting at a desk.
Emotional Turmoil:
You may become easily angered. Do you find your temper rising over the smallest incident? Does your family and friends wonder why you can get angry so quickly? At the same time, are you able to release your anger quickly, left wondering what all the fuss is about?
--> used to say that my emotions come very fast, but they disappear very fast too. ah well
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Monday, October 24, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Friday, October 21, 2011
everyone's been talking about the 2 year old toddler.
reminds me of the time when i witnessed a dog being hit by a car, and nobody (other than this kind man after asking a few people) wanted to help me to carry its body to the side of the road so it won't get run over by any other cars.
reminds me of the times when i myself felt too tired to get a student down to talk to her even after hearing that she's been cutting herself.
issit really something that's only happening now? or is it more a matter of apathy rearing its ugly head in the media.
how many people will get shaken by this and then subsequently go on not to continue in their apathy towards the various things in society today?
From 'The Gift of Therapy' by Yalom:
"Those who are cradlers of secrets are granted a clarifying lens through which to view the world - a view with less distortion, denial, and illusion, a view of the way things really are."
reminds me of the time when i witnessed a dog being hit by a car, and nobody (other than this kind man after asking a few people) wanted to help me to carry its body to the side of the road so it won't get run over by any other cars.
reminds me of the times when i myself felt too tired to get a student down to talk to her even after hearing that she's been cutting herself.
issit really something that's only happening now? or is it more a matter of apathy rearing its ugly head in the media.
how many people will get shaken by this and then subsequently go on not to continue in their apathy towards the various things in society today?
From 'The Gift of Therapy' by Yalom:
"Those who are cradlers of secrets are granted a clarifying lens through which to view the world - a view with less distortion, denial, and illusion, a view of the way things really are."
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Thursday, October 13, 2011
i was quite affected by this unexpected case yesterday in school.
it was a lot of misdirected anger and frustration and mistrust. i guess it would have been therapeutic for the student, but at the end of the session, i felt super drained.
and it lasted till this morning. woke up feeling unmotivated to go to work. like no desire or passion to go to work at all.
shifting my glance towards God helped though :)
and having my dad drive me to school helped too :)
it was a lot of misdirected anger and frustration and mistrust. i guess it would have been therapeutic for the student, but at the end of the session, i felt super drained.
and it lasted till this morning. woke up feeling unmotivated to go to work. like no desire or passion to go to work at all.
shifting my glance towards God helped though :)
and having my dad drive me to school helped too :)
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
lol. no idea why i've been having headache and backaches for the whole of yesterday night to this morning :( took panadol just now cos it felt like i was going to have a fever. hahaa.
i dreamt that i was stranded in Thailand yesterday. hahaha. so funny.
i still remember vividly that the plot was as follows: we were staying at a friend's house (i dun remember who the we were...) and on saturday morning, when i was about to depart for my flight back to Singapore, i checked my ticket and realized that the flight was supposed to be the night (Friday night) before! wahaha. super funny. and thus i realized that i've already missed my flight. and immediately i got reminded of Florence and Serene! LOL
i remembered thinking in the dream that I don't have enough money to fly back, and since I'm already stranded in Thailand, i might as well spend more time here. lol. anyway, my friend's parents helped me to buy tickets to go back home, but in return, i had to help them with housework that kinda thing. haha.
so funny.
i dreamt that i was stranded in Thailand yesterday. hahaha. so funny.
i still remember vividly that the plot was as follows: we were staying at a friend's house (i dun remember who the we were...) and on saturday morning, when i was about to depart for my flight back to Singapore, i checked my ticket and realized that the flight was supposed to be the night (Friday night) before! wahaha. super funny. and thus i realized that i've already missed my flight. and immediately i got reminded of Florence and Serene! LOL
i remembered thinking in the dream that I don't have enough money to fly back, and since I'm already stranded in Thailand, i might as well spend more time here. lol. anyway, my friend's parents helped me to buy tickets to go back home, but in return, i had to help them with housework that kinda thing. haha.
so funny.
Monday, October 10, 2011
Sunday, October 09, 2011
Friday, October 07, 2011
“Our therapy sessions were very helpful to me, although I did hit on her on a couple of occasions. She was the consummate professional. We concluded our sessions and are now involved in a loving sexual relationship. It was a relationship which developed after our meetings. We have been together now for 10 years. I love her so much. She is everything to me as I am to her!"
--> -_- this is also SUPER UNPROFESSIONAL. under the guidelines, you're not supposed to be romantically involved in a relationship (at least for 6 yrs) with someone whom you've counselled before. in the first place, isn't it weird? like one-sided.
--> -_- this is also SUPER UNPROFESSIONAL. under the guidelines, you're not supposed to be romantically involved in a relationship (at least for 6 yrs) with someone whom you've counselled before. in the first place, isn't it weird? like one-sided.
Am reading up on transference (again).
saw this online:
"I am 46 and have been to several male therapists with whom I've had no transference. I feel as though he took advantage of my vulnerability and the fact that my relationship with my husband was unhealthy and screwed up at that time. He also would take me out to lunch regularly, tell me how he'd be "willing to take me out for a glass of wine", etc. There was never any touching between us."
--> O_O
what kind of therapist actually does that? that's BEYOND professional standards of counselling and therapy! no wonder the lady was having transference issues -_-
"The therapist as parent in this type of transference may have to endure some pretty strong anger from the patient. This is in part helpful because it allows the child to express feelings that were too dangerous to express in an abusive or neglectful setting. Once these feelings of anger and grief are expressed, the patient often feels a relief, as if he or she had actually confronted his own parents."
--> i once used this in a counselling session with a girl. sensed that she was transferring her experiences towards other friends towards me, along with constant rejection, a sort of a push and pull relationship of sorts.
not easy to have gone through that period of time (like have to consistently and constantly establish a routine and stable and accepting meetup for around 3 months). thank God that period of time is over and due to that, i could help her to make sense of the bullying in her life in the past.
typing this down sort of an account of what happened. haha
saw this online:
"I am 46 and have been to several male therapists with whom I've had no transference. I feel as though he took advantage of my vulnerability and the fact that my relationship with my husband was unhealthy and screwed up at that time. He also would take me out to lunch regularly, tell me how he'd be "willing to take me out for a glass of wine", etc. There was never any touching between us."
--> O_O
what kind of therapist actually does that? that's BEYOND professional standards of counselling and therapy! no wonder the lady was having transference issues -_-
"The therapist as parent in this type of transference may have to endure some pretty strong anger from the patient. This is in part helpful because it allows the child to express feelings that were too dangerous to express in an abusive or neglectful setting. Once these feelings of anger and grief are expressed, the patient often feels a relief, as if he or she had actually confronted his own parents."
--> i once used this in a counselling session with a girl. sensed that she was transferring her experiences towards other friends towards me, along with constant rejection, a sort of a push and pull relationship of sorts.
not easy to have gone through that period of time (like have to consistently and constantly establish a routine and stable and accepting meetup for around 3 months). thank God that period of time is over and due to that, i could help her to make sense of the bullying in her life in the past.
typing this down sort of an account of what happened. haha
Wednesday, October 05, 2011
Monday, October 03, 2011
"Let’s say I have just one hour to focus on house cleaning. Normally I would start in one room and concentrate all my efforts on the room, and most likely one thing on that room – perhaps the closet. That leaves the other rooms untouched and the remainder of the room looking just as messy as before."
--> WAHAHAHA. that's what happens to me! WAHAHAHA
--> WAHAHAHA. that's what happens to me! WAHAHAHA
Hyperfocus is the term used to describe when an ADHD individual is immersed in an activity he or she finds interesting. Many parents are familiar with hyperfocus as it applies to TV and video games. You may have heard parents ask, “Why can my child sit for 12 hours in front of a computer game, yet he is unable to do homework for 5 minutes?” Hyperfocus answers this question. Since ADHD children cannot regulate their attention, they will be engrossed by something they find interesting while neglecting important areas of their lives.
When ADHD children or adults are in the zone of hyperfocus, they may lose track of time and reality. Hours seem like minutes and the outside world is distant to them. On the good side, a list of ADHD positive characteristics includes hyperfocus because it can be an asset for innovative types like scientists, artists, writers, and inventors. On the bad side, hyperfocus may lead to tight deadlines, the tendency to be tardy, and misunderstandings in relationships.
--> this probably explains why i could play Aardwolf for 6 hrs straight :X
When ADHD children or adults are in the zone of hyperfocus, they may lose track of time and reality. Hours seem like minutes and the outside world is distant to them. On the good side, a list of ADHD positive characteristics includes hyperfocus because it can be an asset for innovative types like scientists, artists, writers, and inventors. On the bad side, hyperfocus may lead to tight deadlines, the tendency to be tardy, and misunderstandings in relationships.
--> this probably explains why i could play Aardwolf for 6 hrs straight :X