Need love vs Gift love.

Need love is when you say you want to be loved. E.g. I need a hug. I need someone to appreciate me.

Gift love is when you give of yourself. I love you, so I give. It's like the giving of love from parents to children, the giving of Mother Theresa to the people on the streets of Calcutta.

Need pleasure vs appreciation pleasure.

Need pleasure is when you have a need... and when that need is fulfilled, the pleasure that comes from it is need pleasure. Take for example, after running the Army Half Marathon, you're perspiring and sweating and all you want is to a cold cup of milo and the chance to just walk around, cool down and enjoy the slight warm breeze, and when you get all of it, you go 'ahh..' there's a sense of satisfaction, a sense of pleasure. That is need pleasure.

Appreciation pleasure is that sense of awe, that sense of appreciation at something you didn't anticipate. It's like you're sitting by the side of the sea, and all of a sudden you realise there's a beautiful sunset in front of your eyes. And you just pause and say to yourself 'wow. I'm gonna just take some time to drink it in.' That. is appreciation pleasure. You didn't plan for it, but it appeared anyway, and it brings you great pleasure.

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the 4 types of love..

Eros
Philia
Storge
Agape

Which is yours? Can it really be defined so clearly?
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