Saturday, July 30, 2011
yay.
i'm procrastinating.
haha.
the thing about being a sang is when you're at home, and alone, all you can do is to have lots of ideas popping up in your head, and nobody to tell them to. hahaa.
so you write it out on a blog, because blogs are read, ain't they? ;)
anyway, i'm not here to write about an idea. i'm here to help myself concentrate. hahaa.
missing japanese class this sunday cos of conference! will be joining another teacher's class next tuesday instead. Yamazaki sensei O_o
My sensei is Yoruichi sensei :D she's a friendly sensei who's smiling most of the time, but can tell she thinks too. haha. she's from Osaka, always avoids the qns on age, came to Singapore cos she wants to be a Japanese language teacher, and has been in Singapore only for less than half a year. hahaa. she's very patient with us. wahaha. she looks pretty young, so my guess is that she's either around my age, or less than 30.
i think that's all we know about her. hahaa.
conference is tmr and i'm unprepared!
i'm procrastinating.
haha.
the thing about being a sang is when you're at home, and alone, all you can do is to have lots of ideas popping up in your head, and nobody to tell them to. hahaa.
so you write it out on a blog, because blogs are read, ain't they? ;)
anyway, i'm not here to write about an idea. i'm here to help myself concentrate. hahaa.
missing japanese class this sunday cos of conference! will be joining another teacher's class next tuesday instead. Yamazaki sensei O_o
My sensei is Yoruichi sensei :D she's a friendly sensei who's smiling most of the time, but can tell she thinks too. haha. she's from Osaka, always avoids the qns on age, came to Singapore cos she wants to be a Japanese language teacher, and has been in Singapore only for less than half a year. hahaa. she's very patient with us. wahaha. she looks pretty young, so my guess is that she's either around my age, or less than 30.
i think that's all we know about her. hahaa.
conference is tmr and i'm unprepared!
Friday, July 29, 2011
Thursday, July 28, 2011
The Staff Meeting that was originally scheduled to take place on Friday 9 Sep (during the 1-week Sep School Holiday Period) has been cancelled.
As such, staff who are not required to attend to any official duties / work commitments and have the intention to go overseas for a short vacation may do so anytime between Friday 2 Sep (School Holiday as it is Teachers' Day) and Saturday 10 Sep.
All teachers should be back in Singapore latest by Saturday 10 Sep at 11:59pm so that you will have at least one full day rest before Term 4 starts on Mon 12 Sep.
best news in months. haha
As such, staff who are not required to attend to any official duties / work commitments and have the intention to go overseas for a short vacation may do so anytime between Friday 2 Sep (School Holiday as it is Teachers' Day) and Saturday 10 Sep.
All teachers should be back in Singapore latest by Saturday 10 Sep at 11:59pm so that you will have at least one full day rest before Term 4 starts on Mon 12 Sep.
best news in months. haha
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Exhausted.
finally my second case presentation is over :) took lesser time to prepare than i thought.
sleeping for 4 hrs and waking up at 5am is no joke when you're already sleep deprived. wahaha.
realized that thinking of case conceptualization at 5am in the morning helps me to wake up though :) lol
thought i could go back early after counselling to sleep today, but had a last minute arranged meeting instead. hoho. God may You sustain me :)
looking forward for thursday when i can finally sleep early!
finally my second case presentation is over :) took lesser time to prepare than i thought.
sleeping for 4 hrs and waking up at 5am is no joke when you're already sleep deprived. wahaha.
realized that thinking of case conceptualization at 5am in the morning helps me to wake up though :) lol
thought i could go back early after counselling to sleep today, but had a last minute arranged meeting instead. hoho. God may You sustain me :)
looking forward for thursday when i can finally sleep early!
why am i up at 5+ in the morning?
cos i'm finishing up case presentation preparation!
why didn't i do it earlier?
cos last week was super packed, and i couldn't take the video before last week due to constraints.
why didn't i finish it last night?
cos i was falling asleep at 10+ at night, and i could hardly concentrate at 12am!
cos i'm finishing up case presentation preparation!
why didn't i do it earlier?
cos last week was super packed, and i couldn't take the video before last week due to constraints.
why didn't i finish it last night?
cos i was falling asleep at 10+ at night, and i could hardly concentrate at 12am!
Your natural style is probably as an ideological leader. Ideological leaders achieve through the promotion of ideals and values. They keep the focus of the group on those things that are most important. Ideological leadership is founded on a strong belief system that is shared by the group. It focuses effort on supporting those beliefs or championing causes with which they are associated.
Your second natural style is probably as a participative leader. Participative leaders achieve through people, through team work, and through collective involvement in the task. Participative leadership involves building collective ownership and commitment within the group. Participative leaders make people feel valued as an integral part of the team so that everyone achieves the goals through relationships and cooperative teamwork.
Your second natural style is probably as a participative leader. Participative leaders achieve through people, through team work, and through collective involvement in the task. Participative leadership involves building collective ownership and commitment within the group. Participative leaders make people feel valued as an integral part of the team so that everyone achieves the goals through relationships and cooperative teamwork.
Careers for the NF "Idealists" (INFP, ENFP, INFJ, ENFJ)
The Idealists are quite different from the Rational NTs discussed above, and will generally prefer different types of careers. While the NTs gravitate towards the sciences, most NFs do not find such objective and dry topics to their interest. According to Keirsey, the Idealists are on a search for their "true self" and want to make the world a better place to live by helping others. Integrity matters.
NF types with ADD often get by in school and might even do well, depending on their particular circumstances, but they are highly sensitive to criticism and classroom setting. NFs are particularly prone to imaginative daydreaming, even the ones who are not ADD.
According to Keirsey, "Novelists, dramatists, television writers, playwrights, journalists, poets, and biographers are almost exclusively NFs." These are the writers who wish to "inspire and persuade." Note: Most of the personal ADD websites are undoubtedly written by NFs. This is somewhat interesting because Intuitive ADDers often have reading and writing problems, even those who consider themselves to be compulsive readers and writers! I've had several NF ADDers comment that they took ADD medication so they could read better or write with less editing. But it is not so much the "writing" per se as the release of ideas which most attracts the NF. And ADDers are definitely full of ideas.
Idealists are also drawn to teaching, where they are highly over represented. In the teaching field, they often end up arguing with the more common SJ types about how things should be run, arguing on behalf of students or alternative teaching styles. Other fields which NFs are often attracted to are psychiatry, ministry, and acting.
Like the NTs, the NFs are easily bored and often restless, even those who are not ADD. NFs may plan for job or career changes from time to time in order to keep things interesting and challenging.
More detail from "Please Understand Me":
ENFJs "make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and personalized salespersons." To be avoided: accounting. "Almost any people-to-people occupation where personal, sustained contact is involved" will be best for the ENFJ. However, they "experience some degree of restlessness whatever their jobs."
"INFJs make outstanding individual therapists" and "often select liberal arts as a college major and opt for occupations which involve interacting with people on a one-to-one basis."
"ENFPs have a remarkable latitude in career choices and succeed in many fields."
INFP "career choices may be toward the ministry, missionary work, college teaching, psychiatry, architecture, psychology -- and away from business."
The ADD NF: The specific job setting is likely to make the difference for an NF who is ADD. Most importantly, try and find a particular job within your field which has a minimum amount of paperwork or be sure there is reliable support staff. A career of successfully helping people should keep an NF interested in their work, and an interested ADDer is a focused (or hyperfocused) ADDer.
The Idealists are quite different from the Rational NTs discussed above, and will generally prefer different types of careers. While the NTs gravitate towards the sciences, most NFs do not find such objective and dry topics to their interest. According to Keirsey, the Idealists are on a search for their "true self" and want to make the world a better place to live by helping others. Integrity matters.
NF types with ADD often get by in school and might even do well, depending on their particular circumstances, but they are highly sensitive to criticism and classroom setting. NFs are particularly prone to imaginative daydreaming, even the ones who are not ADD.
According to Keirsey, "Novelists, dramatists, television writers, playwrights, journalists, poets, and biographers are almost exclusively NFs." These are the writers who wish to "inspire and persuade." Note: Most of the personal ADD websites are undoubtedly written by NFs. This is somewhat interesting because Intuitive ADDers often have reading and writing problems, even those who consider themselves to be compulsive readers and writers! I've had several NF ADDers comment that they took ADD medication so they could read better or write with less editing. But it is not so much the "writing" per se as the release of ideas which most attracts the NF. And ADDers are definitely full of ideas.
Idealists are also drawn to teaching, where they are highly over represented. In the teaching field, they often end up arguing with the more common SJ types about how things should be run, arguing on behalf of students or alternative teaching styles. Other fields which NFs are often attracted to are psychiatry, ministry, and acting.
Like the NTs, the NFs are easily bored and often restless, even those who are not ADD. NFs may plan for job or career changes from time to time in order to keep things interesting and challenging.
More detail from "Please Understand Me":
ENFJs "make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and personalized salespersons." To be avoided: accounting. "Almost any people-to-people occupation where personal, sustained contact is involved" will be best for the ENFJ. However, they "experience some degree of restlessness whatever their jobs."
"INFJs make outstanding individual therapists" and "often select liberal arts as a college major and opt for occupations which involve interacting with people on a one-to-one basis."
"ENFPs have a remarkable latitude in career choices and succeed in many fields."
INFP "career choices may be toward the ministry, missionary work, college teaching, psychiatry, architecture, psychology -- and away from business."
The ADD NF: The specific job setting is likely to make the difference for an NF who is ADD. Most importantly, try and find a particular job within your field which has a minimum amount of paperwork or be sure there is reliable support staff. A career of successfully helping people should keep an NF interested in their work, and an interested ADDer is a focused (or hyperfocused) ADDer.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
haha. today was a mad rush from place to place.
but was really quite refreshed :)
had counselling, then had hope supervision when i presented my case.
then rushed down to japanese class 15 mins late >_<
and had shepherding :)
but enjoyable! :D hahaa. i was not as tired as i thought i would be.. and i really learned a lot today =D
but was really quite refreshed :)
had counselling, then had hope supervision when i presented my case.
then rushed down to japanese class 15 mins late >_<
and had shepherding :)
but enjoyable! :D hahaa. i was not as tired as i thought i would be.. and i really learned a lot today =D
in my counselling, i am guided by:
1) person-centered therapy
2) psychodynamic theory
i have the following therapy
1) mainly affective interventions (e.g. psychodyanmic and gestalt)
2) behavioural
3) cognitive
4) systemic
lol.
systemic is usually my ending approach. didn't even realize i use a lot of psychodynamic until i evaluated my own methods and how it helps the clients.
using a lot of behavioural with my lower sec students, and a lot of affective with my Hope counsellees
1) person-centered therapy
2) psychodynamic theory
i have the following therapy
1) mainly affective interventions (e.g. psychodyanmic and gestalt)
2) behavioural
3) cognitive
4) systemic
lol.
systemic is usually my ending approach. didn't even realize i use a lot of psychodynamic until i evaluated my own methods and how it helps the clients.
using a lot of behavioural with my lower sec students, and a lot of affective with my Hope counsellees
Friday, July 22, 2011
next week is packed. haha.
i hope i survive.
actually weekend is packed too.
sat - backup singing, service, yg event.
sunday - counselling, hope counselling supervision, japanese lessons, shepherding
monday - work (preparation of case presentation on tuesday, preparation for anger management course, board games day with students) and meetup with rachel
tuesday - cluster supervision in the morning (while students are having YAP). oooh. afternoon is free for me to clear admin stuff!
wednesday - TOP for students in morning, anger management course in the afternoon. means no time to do any work. hoho. japanese lang lessons at night.
thursday - preparation for SPS visit, admin stuff. on course in the afternoon.
friday is SPEECH DAY.
oh man.
no time to meet my students for counselling except for tuesday afternoon and friday :(
i hope i survive.
actually weekend is packed too.
sat - backup singing, service, yg event.
sunday - counselling, hope counselling supervision, japanese lessons, shepherding
monday - work (preparation of case presentation on tuesday, preparation for anger management course, board games day with students) and meetup with rachel
tuesday - cluster supervision in the morning (while students are having YAP). oooh. afternoon is free for me to clear admin stuff!
wednesday - TOP for students in morning, anger management course in the afternoon. means no time to do any work. hoho. japanese lang lessons at night.
thursday - preparation for SPS visit, admin stuff. on course in the afternoon.
friday is SPEECH DAY.
oh man.
no time to meet my students for counselling except for tuesday afternoon and friday :(
Thursday, July 21, 2011
i just want to show off the number of notes i've received today during japanese lanaguage class. hahaa.
here it is:
and there're fun things to do - e.g. mini crossword puzzle and mini finding the word. haha
teacher is japanese and doesn't really know english :(
my classmates are quite okay. haha. very mixed. got friendly people =) a few bankers. interesting.
i'm exhausted.
first lesson, and it was already tiring. haha. i could catch up cos i've learned before. but i think the rest are dying. like really dying.
and to think tt the next session is on sunday! O_O
got dictation on sunday!
oh ya. forgot to mention, the notes and the cd are in addition to the textbook (and the cd that comes with the textbook) that we have!
here it is:
and there're fun things to do - e.g. mini crossword puzzle and mini finding the word. haha
teacher is japanese and doesn't really know english :(
my classmates are quite okay. haha. very mixed. got friendly people =) a few bankers. interesting.
i'm exhausted.
first lesson, and it was already tiring. haha. i could catch up cos i've learned before. but i think the rest are dying. like really dying.
and to think tt the next session is on sunday! O_O
got dictation on sunday!
oh ya. forgot to mention, the notes and the cd are in addition to the textbook (and the cd that comes with the textbook) that we have!
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
for brothers and sisters who struggle with pornography, there's a software called x3watch provided by XXXchurch.com which will track the questionable websites that you visit.
your accountability partner will receive an email from them once every 2 weeks.
a brief excerpt from the email i received:
"X3Watch is free accountability software provided by XXXchurch.com - a non-profit organization which exists to bring awareness, openness, accountability and recovery to the church, society, and individuals in the issues of pornography."
your accountability partner will receive an email from them once every 2 weeks.
a brief excerpt from the email i received:
"X3Watch is free accountability software provided by XXXchurch.com - a non-profit organization which exists to bring awareness, openness, accountability and recovery to the church, society, and individuals in the issues of pornography."
Monday, July 18, 2011
Counselling provides people with an opportunity to help deal with their difficulties, whatever they may be. It is a chance to be listened to and understood. The relationship between counsellor and client is a special one. It is built around trust and support and offers clients a place free from judgement. As such, it is important that there are a number of boundaries and support mechanisms in place to ensure the needs of the client are met. These boundaries should be apparent whether you receive counselling face to face, online or over the telephone
The relationship must always remain professional. This is the case even if you have counselling for years and years. Clients and counsellors are not friends. This distinct difference allows your counsellor to retain a level of objectivity that a friend will struggle with when you go to them with your problems. Your friend may have a stake in the outcome of your problems that a counsellor will not have. For example, despite being supportive, your friend hopes you will split up with your boyfriend as they never liked him. You can get on really well with your counsellor but the relationship should always remain formal. If you suddenly start meeting outside sessions with your counsellor for coffee for example, this boundary is lost and the relationship is compromised. (there was once when i did go out with my counsellee as a reward for something she's done. though i made it very clear that it was a reward for the growth in what she was doing.)
Another boundary to be aware of is that counselling is not about telling you what to do. Counsellors will work towards self awareness and help promote change. Clients are regarded as experts in their own life and capable of making decisions. Counselling can help clarify these decisions and broaden perspectives. Again, this is how a counsellor can be more effective than a friend as it is so easy for a friend to give advice that may or may not be helpful to your particular experience. Ever known someone who responds to your problems by saying "I know what you mean, that happened to me", then launch into a totally unrelated story about themselves?
A client should always feel safe in a counselling relationship. There should not be any untoward touching, or interaction that the client feels is inappropriate. Related to the idea of safety, you will find counsellors like to begin and end sessions on time, therefore providing a space set aside just for clients, where the boundaries are clear.
Finally, sometimes a client may be referred to another support agency. This may happen if the counsellor acknowledges that the client can get better help elsewhere or if boundaries are broken. Counsellors do not have all the answers and they should never imply that they do.
The relationship must always remain professional. This is the case even if you have counselling for years and years. Clients and counsellors are not friends. This distinct difference allows your counsellor to retain a level of objectivity that a friend will struggle with when you go to them with your problems. Your friend may have a stake in the outcome of your problems that a counsellor will not have. For example, despite being supportive, your friend hopes you will split up with your boyfriend as they never liked him. You can get on really well with your counsellor but the relationship should always remain formal. If you suddenly start meeting outside sessions with your counsellor for coffee for example, this boundary is lost and the relationship is compromised. (there was once when i did go out with my counsellee as a reward for something she's done. though i made it very clear that it was a reward for the growth in what she was doing.)
Another boundary to be aware of is that counselling is not about telling you what to do. Counsellors will work towards self awareness and help promote change. Clients are regarded as experts in their own life and capable of making decisions. Counselling can help clarify these decisions and broaden perspectives. Again, this is how a counsellor can be more effective than a friend as it is so easy for a friend to give advice that may or may not be helpful to your particular experience. Ever known someone who responds to your problems by saying "I know what you mean, that happened to me", then launch into a totally unrelated story about themselves?
A client should always feel safe in a counselling relationship. There should not be any untoward touching, or interaction that the client feels is inappropriate. Related to the idea of safety, you will find counsellors like to begin and end sessions on time, therefore providing a space set aside just for clients, where the boundaries are clear.
Finally, sometimes a client may be referred to another support agency. This may happen if the counsellor acknowledges that the client can get better help elsewhere or if boundaries are broken. Counsellors do not have all the answers and they should never imply that they do.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
heh. i slipped in my counselling today.
didn't prepare myself emotional and mentally for the intensity of the sharing of the session, and thus was affected more than i should have been.
not sure if that's a good thing (i've not grown numb towards things), or a bad thing (it affected me such that i found myself trembling after the session and had to pray).
praying for greater resilience and wisdom! :D
didn't prepare myself emotional and mentally for the intensity of the sharing of the session, and thus was affected more than i should have been.
not sure if that's a good thing (i've not grown numb towards things), or a bad thing (it affected me such that i found myself trembling after the session and had to pray).
praying for greater resilience and wisdom! :D
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
each year i get tempted by beauty.
last year was the lure of italy, and the speed of iphone 4.
this year, the one which tempts me comes in a thin, sleek form:
http://www.engadget.com/2011/03/28/samsung-series-9-900x-laptop-review/
last year was the lure of italy, and the speed of iphone 4.
this year, the one which tempts me comes in a thin, sleek form:
http://www.engadget.com/2011/03/28/samsung-series-9-900x-laptop-review/
i was going to type a long post griping about people's over obsession over money and safety. but i think at the end of the day, it's more of how i prefer my way of living life over others'.
but at least today, if i die, i can say that i've genuinely lived life. not because of the trips i've taken, or the things i've done, but rather, by the people i've shared life with, and by forging forward instead of holding back.
but at least today, if i die, i can say that i've genuinely lived life. not because of the trips i've taken, or the things i've done, but rather, by the people i've shared life with, and by forging forward instead of holding back.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Sunday, July 10, 2011
i think comments are very potent.
i can still remember one of the most hurtful comments i've had in my life came from someone who i was supposed to look up to.
it was a comment which compared me to another sister.
and though i think i blogged about it before, and i don't hold a grudge towards the sister, the impact of the comment still remains.
such tt whenever i look at the other sister, subconsciously i'd have that statement pop up in my mind.
scary!
another one came just last yr. it was a comment which really upset me cos it caused me to question my identity. haha.
and funnily, it came from someone i really really trusted at that time.
and similarly, i dun hold a grudge towards that person, but i can't deny that whenever i talk to the person, the impact still remains.
i can still remember one of the most hurtful comments i've had in my life came from someone who i was supposed to look up to.
it was a comment which compared me to another sister.
and though i think i blogged about it before, and i don't hold a grudge towards the sister, the impact of the comment still remains.
such tt whenever i look at the other sister, subconsciously i'd have that statement pop up in my mind.
scary!
another one came just last yr. it was a comment which really upset me cos it caused me to question my identity. haha.
and funnily, it came from someone i really really trusted at that time.
and similarly, i dun hold a grudge towards that person, but i can't deny that whenever i talk to the person, the impact still remains.
haven't updated on new couplings. LOL.
heard of one new coupling a few weeks ago. hahaa.
hmm. kinda expected it. just tt this coupling took a few years to form.
glad for them!
realized tt i have a flair for spotting future couplings, or bumping into underground couples.
and a flair for spotting ppl with same sex inclinations.
heard of one new coupling a few weeks ago. hahaa.
hmm. kinda expected it. just tt this coupling took a few years to form.
glad for them!
realized tt i have a flair for spotting future couplings, or bumping into underground couples.
and a flair for spotting ppl with same sex inclinations.
Friday, July 08, 2011
sleepy.
just came back from going with the students to changi airport for their Time Out Programme.
realized that:
1) students really don't share as much to teachers as to external vendors (despite how close the teacher is to them)
2) point no. 1 affects me slightly because i like to know deep about people
3) i've grown in this area of point no.1 because i would have been quite affected in the past. now i just take it that everyone has different people they feel more comfortable to share to. i don't necessarily have to be the one.
4) there're some people whom i'm scared of asking deep, or of confronting. i'm not usually scared of confronting people, but am fearful of confronting some people.
5) no. 4 makes me go 'oh dear'.
just came back from going with the students to changi airport for their Time Out Programme.
realized that:
1) students really don't share as much to teachers as to external vendors (despite how close the teacher is to them)
2) point no. 1 affects me slightly because i like to know deep about people
3) i've grown in this area of point no.1 because i would have been quite affected in the past. now i just take it that everyone has different people they feel more comfortable to share to. i don't necessarily have to be the one.
4) there're some people whom i'm scared of asking deep, or of confronting. i'm not usually scared of confronting people, but am fearful of confronting some people.
5) no. 4 makes me go 'oh dear'.
Tuesday, July 05, 2011
the first surprise I have of today: a student i didn't expect to come, reaching early to meet me for the YAP, and being the only one to do so.
the first irritant of the morning: P coming in and complaining about the absentees in school.
the first reminder of the morning: Pastor Jeff's note on facebook to commit the day to the HS
choosing to focus on what's ahead, rather than let the negative beat me down :)
the first irritant of the morning: P coming in and complaining about the absentees in school.
the first reminder of the morning: Pastor Jeff's note on facebook to commit the day to the HS
choosing to focus on what's ahead, rather than let the negative beat me down :)
Sunday, July 03, 2011
i read a graphic novel which contained compilations of artists' works on their response to 9/11 today. very touching. it's just a compilation of different thoughts/responses/viewpoints on the events of 9/11. some stories touched on people who survived and what happened to them, some on the family members, some on other people who have heard of the incident.. things like that. how it impacted them, how it moulded their thoughts.
there's a continual welling up of emotions, of sadness, of hope, of wander at the heroic actions of ordinary people, or amazement at how a tragic event like this could be turned into something hopeful.. i was particularly touched by a child's recount of a dream of his mother who was one of the police officers who helped save people during the 9/11 incident, but died. he continually stands up strong in view of life, cos his mum told him to.
it's about the things that really matter, now that death has stood before them. and about how to make sense of what has happened. it's about remembering, and continually recovering from the grief. it's about a replay of messages left on that day. it's about grace that's been shown, despite the pain that is abundantly present.
and though it happened around 10 years ago, i'm still touched by the responses shown through the graphic novel.
amazing how life is.
there's a continual welling up of emotions, of sadness, of hope, of wander at the heroic actions of ordinary people, or amazement at how a tragic event like this could be turned into something hopeful.. i was particularly touched by a child's recount of a dream of his mother who was one of the police officers who helped save people during the 9/11 incident, but died. he continually stands up strong in view of life, cos his mum told him to.
it's about the things that really matter, now that death has stood before them. and about how to make sense of what has happened. it's about remembering, and continually recovering from the grief. it's about a replay of messages left on that day. it's about grace that's been shown, despite the pain that is abundantly present.
and though it happened around 10 years ago, i'm still touched by the responses shown through the graphic novel.
amazing how life is.